If parents don't want to be the ones who do the most harm to their children,
The answer is to become a lifelong learner.
The significance of lifelong learning for parents is that after a long journey of reading and learning, even if we are still not perfect parents in the future, we can finally say that this is the height that I have reached after traveling through thousands of mountains and rivers.
The founder of Fan Deng Reading personally tested the theory that can form long-term nourishment for children, and conducted in-depth interpretation and careful combing, extracting parenting wisdom from the key nodes of children's growth: about critical periods, about rebellion, about homework, about independence, about talent, about introversion, about learning, about social interaction, about future competitiveness...
"Reading Children's Hearts" aims to help parents who are still confused about their children to fully understand the rules of their children's growth and achieve free and boundary-based education.
Reader comments
Parents are the ones who love their children the most, and they are also the ones who hurt them the most. Anyone who has read this book should be shocked by this sentence. As a mother, who has not gone crazy in the middle of the night, and every mother who has not become furious when her children are naughty. Come and read this book. It is definitely an indispensable book when you are raising your children. It will help you understand your children better, make your children love you more, be a mother who can control your emotions, be friends with your children, and grow together!
The core concept of The Secret of Childhood is respect for the child's instincts: all newborns have a predetermined psychological function, just like bees who know how to grow when they are born. Although babies are not as capable of surviving as bees, they still have the survival instinct to grow on their own. They continue to learn and practice through their own methods to explore the world. To respect children, we must also trust them, let them do everything they can do, and think about all the problems they can think about. As adults, we should understand and enjoy the unique side of children, use positive responses to gain their love, and form a good parent-child and teacher-student relationship through mutual recognition. Understanding children allows us and our children to grow into better people. Strive to improve yourself, effectively change roles, learn to adjust your mentality, enjoy life, appreciate the scenery on the road of children's growth, and achieve the ideal effect of happy education.
The significance of lifelong learning for parents is that after a long journey of reading and learning, even if we are still not perfect parents in the future, we can finally say that this is the height that I have reached after traveling through thousands of mountains and rivers. The greatest significance of the existence of this book is to tell us that no matter who you are, when you are a parent and in front of your children, you must maintain a learning attitude. One of them is reading. The content is still a bit messy, but Fan Deng's learning ability and ability to summarize and generalize are beyond praise. From time to time, some stories about the author and his children are interspersed, which is quite true. I also feel that the title of the book should not be "Reading Children's Minds", maybe "How I Learned to Be a Parent from Books" is more appropriate.
I really like listening to Teacher Fan Deng's lectures, it's very healing. Whenever you feel anxious or when your child has a problem and you don't know how to solve it, just read these books. After reading them, you will suddenly become enlightened.
Teacher Fan Deng recommends a number of family education books in this book and shares his personal parenting experience based on his experience with children.
The sentence that touched me the most: "We have to "win" the children, rather than "win" the children all day long."
The sentence that resonates with me the most: "Real education is not to fill a bucket with water, but to light a fire."
From a genetic perspective, children are the inheritance of our genes, so how to raise children has become an eternal topic for parents. This is a book about family education and child psychology, and may have multiple authors. This type of books aims to help parents and educators better understand children's inner world, thereby establishing a good parent-child relationship and cultivating children's healthy growth. Analyze children's psychological characteristics and needs from the perspective of different ages. They provide practical methods and strategies to help parents better communicate with their children, understand their emotions and needs, and provide support and guidance.
I strongly recommend every parent to read this book. Really, every little story in it is very vivid, and the most important thing is that you will encounter it almost every time you raise your children. After reading this book, you will find that raising children is much easier than before. Everything children do becomes traceable. Parents can understand their children better and get along better with their children. At least I avoided arguments and anger when raising children. After reading this book, I became less angry and my children seemed to have become more sensible. It's so easy to take along! Recommend!
When I was hurt by my parents as a child, I always thought, when I become a parent, I must not do this. But when I grew up, I found that many of the feelings I had when I was a child were no longer there, and I could better understand what adults did. Therefore, if parents do not want to be the ones who harm their children, the solution is to become lifelong learners. Even if we are still not perfect parents in the future, we can finally say that this is the height I have reached after traveling through thousands of miles.
Just like my cousin, she is usually very nice to me, but she becomes very aggressive every time she helps me with my homework. After reading this book, I realized that she was also influenced by her father. I hope she can also read this book, so that she can understand me better and our relationship will be better!
It is a very good book, and I will try my best to read the other books mentioned in it. I hope I can recommend my father to read it. After all, I am just my brother's sister and cannot ban my parents.
Unconditional love, speaking out the child's feelings, understanding the child is empathy; giving the child the right to choose, respecting the child (the range of choices must be acceptable to you, not a threat), reflect when you yell or scold the child, and slowly change the record! Because yelling and scolding a child will only result in temporary obedience, not in the long run! Let children have their own goals in life and understand the world
In this book, I learned more about analyzing and considering the various situations or conflicts that children encounter during their growth stage from the perspective of children, how to express their emotions properly, how to communicate with children, not to control, not to blame and ridicule, etc. The good books recommended in the book also help people constantly broaden their horizons and benefit a lot!
After reading this book, I am willing to take time to play with my children, and I also understand that there are many ways to choose from when raising children.
The content in the book reflects the problems between parents and children in real life, which is easier for readers to understand and reflect on themselves, because many situations exist in our own lives, so this book happens to teach us how to correct mistakes and deal with various problems correctly!
Teacher Fan Deng is very profound in reading, and his understanding and summary are very good. More importantly, he has set an example for Chinese parents by setting an example. Reading this book is really rewarding.
Teacher Fan, thank you for giving us such a good book as parents.
This is a classic book in modern times. It has accumulated life experience and is worth reading. The output will be much higher than your expectations, as long as you read it carefully and patiently.
A very good book, especially suitable for parents who are emotionally unstable.
I hope I can learn and use it
Deeply inspiring and deeply experienced
Fan Deng will produce quality products
Parents play an extremely important role in the growth of their children. They should always pay attention to their influence on their children. You will learn a lot and benefit a lot from reading this book.
After reading this book, I feel that I have stepped on a lot of mistakes and learned a lot. I hope that I and my children can grow better together [Love]
20250728 After reading this book, it is equivalent to Fan Deng taking readers to read the book together with his own life experience, refining the essence of different books and gaining new gains.
It was a revelation. When I have time, I can just talk about the problems I have with my children in just a few words. I like this book very much and it is very useful.
This book is really good and taught me how to solve problems with my children in this way! ! !
Parents are the ones who love their children the most, and they are also the ones who hurt them the most. Anyone who has read this book should be shocked by this sentence. As a mother, who has not gone crazy in the middle of the night, and every mother who has not become furious when her children are naughty. Come and read this book. It is definitely an indispensable book when you are raising your children. It will help you understand your children better, make your children love you more, be a mother who can control your emotions, be friends with your children, and grow together!
The core concept of The Secret of Childhood is respect for the child's instincts: all newborns have a predetermined psychological function, just like bees who know how to grow when they are born. Although babies are not as capable of surviving as bees, they still have the survival instinct to grow on their own. They continue to learn and practice through their own methods to explore the world. To respect children, we must also trust them, let them do everything they can do, and think about all the problems they can think about. As adults, we should understand and enjoy the unique side of children, use positive responses to gain their love, and form a good parent-child and teacher-student relationship through mutual recognition. Understanding children allows us and our children to grow into better people. Strive to improve yourself, effectively change roles, learn to adjust your mentality, enjoy life, appreciate the scenery on the road of children's growth, and achieve the ideal effect of happy education.
The significance of lifelong learning for parents is that after a long journey of reading and learning, even if we are still not perfect parents in the future, we can finally say that this is the height that I have reached after traveling through thousands of mountains and rivers. The greatest significance of the existence of this book is to tell us that no matter who you are, when you are a parent and in front of your children, you must maintain a learning attitude. One of them is reading. The content is still a bit messy, but Fan Deng's learning ability and ability to summarize and generalize are beyond praise. From time to time, some stories about the author and his children are interspersed, which is quite true. I also feel that the title of the book should not be "Reading Children's Minds", maybe "How I Learned to Be a Parent from Books" is more appropriate.
I really like listening to Teacher Fan Deng's lectures, it's very healing. Whenever you feel anxious or when your child has a problem and you don't know how to solve it, just read these books. After reading them, you will suddenly become enlightened.
Teacher Fan Deng recommends a number of family education books in this book and shares his personal parenting experience based on his experience with children. The sentence that touched me the most: "We have to "win" the children, rather than "win" the children all day long." The sentence that resonates with me the most: "Real education is not to fill a bucket with water, but to light a fire."
From a genetic perspective, children are the inheritance of our genes, so how to raise children has become an eternal topic for parents. This is a book about family education and child psychology, and may have multiple authors. This type of books aims to help parents and educators better understand children's inner world, thereby establishing a good parent-child relationship and cultivating children's healthy growth. Analyze children's psychological characteristics and needs from the perspective of different ages. They provide practical methods and strategies to help parents better communicate with their children, understand their emotions and needs, and provide support and guidance.
I strongly recommend every parent to read this book. Really, every little story in it is very vivid, and the most important thing is that you will encounter it almost every time you raise your children. After reading this book, you will find that raising children is much easier than before. Everything children do becomes traceable. Parents can understand their children better and get along better with their children. At least I avoided arguments and anger when raising children. After reading this book, I became less angry and my children seemed to have become more sensible. It's so easy to take along! Recommend!
When I was hurt by my parents as a child, I always thought, when I become a parent, I must not do this. But when I grew up, I found that many of the feelings I had when I was a child were no longer there, and I could better understand what adults did. Therefore, if parents do not want to be the ones who harm their children, the solution is to become lifelong learners. Even if we are still not perfect parents in the future, we can finally say that this is the height I have reached after traveling through thousands of miles.
Just like my cousin, she is usually very nice to me, but she becomes very aggressive every time she helps me with my homework. After reading this book, I realized that she was also influenced by her father. I hope she can also read this book, so that she can understand me better and our relationship will be better!
It is a very good book, and I will try my best to read the other books mentioned in it. I hope I can recommend my father to read it. After all, I am just my brother's sister and cannot ban my parents.
Unconditional love, speaking out the child's feelings, understanding the child is empathy; giving the child the right to choose, respecting the child (the range of choices must be acceptable to you, not a threat), reflect when you yell or scold the child, and slowly change the record! Because yelling and scolding a child will only result in temporary obedience, not in the long run! Let children have their own goals in life and understand the world
In this book, I learned more about analyzing and considering the various situations or conflicts that children encounter during their growth stage from the perspective of children, how to express their emotions properly, how to communicate with children, not to control, not to blame and ridicule, etc. The good books recommended in the book also help people constantly broaden their horizons and benefit a lot!
After reading this book, I am willing to take time to play with my children, and I also understand that there are many ways to choose from when raising children.
The content in the book reflects the problems between parents and children in real life, which is easier for readers to understand and reflect on themselves, because many situations exist in our own lives, so this book happens to teach us how to correct mistakes and deal with various problems correctly!
Teacher Fan Deng is very profound in reading, and his understanding and summary are very good. More importantly, he has set an example for Chinese parents by setting an example. Reading this book is really rewarding.
Teacher Fan, thank you for giving us such a good book as parents.
This is a classic book in modern times. It has accumulated life experience and is worth reading. The output will be much higher than your expectations, as long as you read it carefully and patiently.
A very good book, especially suitable for parents who are emotionally unstable.
I hope I can learn and use it
Deeply inspiring and deeply experienced
Fan Deng will produce quality products
Parents play an extremely important role in the growth of their children. They should always pay attention to their influence on their children. You will learn a lot and benefit a lot from reading this book.
After reading this book, I feel that I have stepped on a lot of mistakes and learned a lot. I hope that I and my children can grow better together [Love]
20250728 After reading this book, it is equivalent to Fan Deng taking readers to read the book together with his own life experience, refining the essence of different books and gaining new gains.
It was a revelation. When I have time, I can just talk about the problems I have with my children in just a few words. I like this book very much and it is very useful.
This book is really good and taught me how to solve problems with my children in this way! ! !
There are many ways worth learning
Great writing, I benefited a lot
Very good book
I'm so lucky to come across this book