When this book is published, Zhou Fan's marriage to her husband is about to enter its tenth year. In the fourteen years from falling in love to getting married, an intimate relationship is like a very good school, allowing each other to constantly meet the other side of themselves and each other. In this book, Zhou Fan lists typical problems in intimate relationships based on his own insights and the counseling experience of thousands of clients: Do you have a "good person addiction"? Do you over-give or over-request? Do you unconsciously control the other person? Etc. Everyone's love will contain personal belongings, and will bring in past experiences, belief systems, and growth background. In Zhou Fan's view, marriage has only one meaning - learning to love, experiencing love, and becoming love. Building a mutually nurturing, trusting and long-lasting intimate relationship requires developing many of our qualities: wisdom, strength, love, compassion, creativity... The courage and truth to constantly face ourselves, and self-growth along the way. When the relationship enters different depths, the deeper hidden themes in the heart will be revealed. Each time you pass the level, you will see your new strengths and characteristics being developed, and the results, abilities and wisdom you gain in your intimate relationship can be copied to other areas of life such as career or health, sharing the depth of life. Zhou Fan hopes that through this book, readers can establish an intimate relationship with each other that is connected but independent, free and equal.
Reader comments
The analysis is profound, the cases are representative, and the descriptions are vivid. It's worth reading, thinking, and comparing your own behavior over and over again.
Teacher Zhou Fan has worked hard, and his hard work is worth cherishing [love] [love] [love]
It's Teacher Zhou Fan
This book is based on the author's personal experience, explores various issues in intimate relationships, and provides many valuable perspectives and suggestions. The characters in the book may not be perfect, but their experiences and personalities allow readers to relate to them and see themselves reflected in them. I think this book is not only suitable for people who are looking for love, but also for people who are already in love or marriage. It can help us better understand ourselves and others, and build healthier and more equal intimate relationships.
I feel like a lot of what I said hit the point, but only to the point. It would be great if the author could use more examples to help us explain the theory. However, life is just an experience, and it is more about personal experience and practice.
After reading it, the inner energy of the whole person has been improved. Some unsolved doubts gradually became clear. The psychological haze gradually melted away. I deserve to have you, you deserve to be praised [admiration]
Allow the other person privacy and imperfection.
I chose the other person to be my soul mate.
When a problem occurs, reflect on your emotions and focus on where you are...
It is much easier to cultivate yourself than to transform others.
Although it is talking about getting along between two people, it actually applies to all relationships. Being aware of yourself and not getting caught up in the constant noise of your emotions and mind is a lifelong lesson
Although this book is very correct, I couldn't relax after reading it. On the contrary, it made me more tired. I kept analyzing myself. I might as well reconcile with myself about that book.
You can still learn a lot from reading this book. I like it.
A life-changing book
I just broke up, and after reading it, I feel like my whole body has been healed.
This book taught me a lot and is very practical
Teacher Zhou has written two books. I have to read both books. Support the author.
After listening to it ten times, I grew up a little after listening to it. Finally, it made me understand how to love myself, my partner, my parents and my children!
This book is well written and philosophical.
Very good, a book that brings growth
This is the second time I've watched it, and I feel like I've gained something new.
The descriptions are mostly true and objective, and the structure is clear and beautiful.
I learned a lot.
It's very interesting to watch, and I had a deep feeling after reading it.
Not bad, a very good book
Good, very good, very good
Seeing the independence of relationships through the existence of relationships until emptiness and no emptiness to cling to
Thank you for your willingness to share your wisdom.
For families, and for enlightening minds
very good book
It's been a long time since I've read the entire book. Thanks to the author for sharing it, which made me think better about my own problems.
It is very helpful for self-growth and can be listened to over and over again.
This book is so well written, I gained some insights after reading it
The analysis is profound, the cases are representative, and the descriptions are vivid. It's worth reading, thinking, and comparing your own behavior over and over again. Teacher Zhou Fan has worked hard, and his hard work is worth cherishing [love] [love] [love] It's Teacher Zhou Fan
This book is based on the author's personal experience, explores various issues in intimate relationships, and provides many valuable perspectives and suggestions. The characters in the book may not be perfect, but their experiences and personalities allow readers to relate to them and see themselves reflected in them. I think this book is not only suitable for people who are looking for love, but also for people who are already in love or marriage. It can help us better understand ourselves and others, and build healthier and more equal intimate relationships.
I feel like a lot of what I said hit the point, but only to the point. It would be great if the author could use more examples to help us explain the theory. However, life is just an experience, and it is more about personal experience and practice.
After reading it, the inner energy of the whole person has been improved. Some unsolved doubts gradually became clear. The psychological haze gradually melted away. I deserve to have you, you deserve to be praised [admiration]
Allow the other person privacy and imperfection. I chose the other person to be my soul mate. When a problem occurs, reflect on your emotions and focus on where you are... It is much easier to cultivate yourself than to transform others.
Although it is talking about getting along between two people, it actually applies to all relationships. Being aware of yourself and not getting caught up in the constant noise of your emotions and mind is a lifelong lesson
Although this book is very correct, I couldn't relax after reading it. On the contrary, it made me more tired. I kept analyzing myself. I might as well reconcile with myself about that book.
You can still learn a lot from reading this book. I like it.
A life-changing book
I just broke up, and after reading it, I feel like my whole body has been healed.
This book taught me a lot and is very practical
Teacher Zhou has written two books. I have to read both books. Support the author.
After listening to it ten times, I grew up a little after listening to it. Finally, it made me understand how to love myself, my partner, my parents and my children!
This book is well written and philosophical.
Very good, a book that brings growth
This is the second time I've watched it, and I feel like I've gained something new.
The descriptions are mostly true and objective, and the structure is clear and beautiful.
I learned a lot.
It's very interesting to watch, and I had a deep feeling after reading it.
Not bad, a very good book
Good, very good, very good
Seeing the independence of relationships through the existence of relationships until emptiness and no emptiness to cling to
Thank you for your willingness to share your wisdom.
For families, and for enlightening minds very good book
It's been a long time since I've read the entire book. Thanks to the author for sharing it, which made me think better about my own problems.
It is very helpful for self-growth and can be listened to over and over again.
This book is so well written, I gained some insights after reading it