Nonviolent Communication

It was just the right time to read this book. I had just had a very violent exchange with my mother during the day, stamping, screaming, roaring, and crying, which scared the children next to me for a moment. My mother also slammed the door and left. After she calmed down, she was full of regrets. After reading this book, I know that this kind of out-of-control behavior is an emotional imbalance caused by unsatisfied psychological needs. If you don't talk about the matter itself, you use inertial thinking to release your emotions and ignore your own actual needs. In this way, you cannot communicate well at all, and the other party will only feel confused. I must study the contents of this book carefully, get rid of violent communication methods as soon as possible, and become an emotionally stable mother and daughter.

I personally think that this book is best promoted in the top 100 companies. If all the staff in the company can roughly understand the content of this book, then the company will definitely achieve ultimate development and growth. Although the content is extremely dry, there are really incredible ideological contents and spiritual goods in it. It can be said that the book has its own golden house. [Eat melon] Wang Zikang 2022.11.16

The second time I read this book, I gained more than the first time. The first time I read it, it seemed lively on the surface, but the second time I read it, I could even use it to solve problems in my daily life. It starts out violently, but then it gradually becomes non-violent communication. . There is a harvest, very big. . 2022.10.24

A very good book, really good. If you apply it to your daily life, you will benefit a lot. I didn't like to communicate with others and couldn't speak. I used to think that it was due to my low self-esteem as a child, but I didn't know that it wasn't! After reading this book, I realized that it was not a bad temper, but verbal violence, invisible lethality, and harming others and myself. I really want to feel deeply sorry for those who have been hurt by my words in the past. It is more harmful to myself. It is said that time is a butcher's knife, but I have deeply realized that language is an invisible butcher's knife. It stings the hearts of others one by one, and cuts your own heart one by one. If you don't find and stop it, it will be inseparable from you. Your words come from your mouth, and your mouth follows your body, so to be precise, you can't escape it in this life, you can only use it well and use it correctly in the right situation. A boring and repetitive life will destroy a person's ability to think correctly. When you get out of it, you find that the person you are in the boring life is not really you. But the most evil villain deep inside has come out and is messing with your mind, messing up your life, and using you to attack others. So you have to get rid of it, don't let it rot your heart and uglify your body. Come out of complaining and blaming, and learn to look at everything with a grateful heart.

While reading this book, I unconsciously thought about my usual communication style with my family, and also considered some of the words I had said before, which ones could not meet the needs of others, and which ones did not fully express what I meant. Therefore, I learned a lot from this book. While reading the book, I will also unconsciously use it in my communication with my family. The fact is that it will really improve, and I will also feel that the people around me are well-intentioned. Thinking more about problems from the perspective of others will make me feel a lot more peaceful. This is indeed a very good book and worth reading again and again.

I feel that this book has inspired me and made me understand the contradictions in things, how to resolve conflicts, how and why conflicts happen, this book is very good

This is a book that teaches people how to communicate. The most important thing is to teach people how to communicate. There are always big differences in ideas between people to a certain extent. If we don't know how to communicate, conflicts will easily arise. "Good words" can reconcile people's conflicts and enhance people's relationships. Then learning how to speak is a very important topic. This book explains how to express needs correctly, and when I apply them to my life, it really reduces the discomfort between me and others.

Nonviolent communication is a communication and conflict resolution method proposed by American psychologist Marshall Rosenberg. It promotes understanding, empathy and harmony between relationships and reduces conflict and violence. The core concepts of nonviolent communication are based on the principles of respect, empathy, and expressing true needs. It emphasizes listening and speaking skills to help people better understand their own and others' feelings and needs, thereby building respectful and cooperative relationships. It mainly includes elements such as observation, feeling, needs and requests. By using non-violent communication skills, people can better understand each other's feelings and needs and effectively resolve conflicts.

A very wonderful article that explains the advantages of non-violent communication from many angles. It can be used in daily life and work. It contains many communication tips and explains how we can resolve conflicts, large and small, in life. In this complicated world, we need to deal with different people all the time, and how to learn an effective communication method has become a very important part.

This book is very useful. It helped me communicate harmoniously with others and establish good interpersonal relationships. It helped me learn to observe, feel, express, and summarize. It taught me how to use non-violent communication to resolve many unnecessary conflicts and contradictions. It taught me to think from other people's perspective and not to make subjective evaluations and criticisms without knowing things, because your ideas and values ​​may not be correct. You cannot evaluate others without authorization, etc...

This book is so good to learn. The sentences in it always remind people how to use the language of non-violent communication. The examples are vivid and the content is clear and easy to understand. It is worth reading! There will be great gains!

Highly recommended, I feel like it is the book I was looking for. I seem to have found the wrong book? ? ? Is it the Marshall one?

Whether a person's emotions are stable or not depends on his understanding and interpretation of the behavior and language around him. If you use non-violent communication, you can shift from judging what is right or wrong to stating facts, understanding needs, and communicating peacefully. That is to say, verbal violence. Language conflict, a life conflict, greatly reduces the probability of it happening in your life. This book is really very useful. Don't think that all emotions are called emotions only when they are vented. Those emotions can be internalized by your different interpretations. I hope that most readers will find the book boring after just turning a few pages. Books that you find boring can often bring you unexpected help.

After listening to "Nonviolent Communication", my biggest gain is It turns out that communication can be done without emotions, and people can understand what I'm saying. Previously Now I have learned to observe first, then express feelings, explain needs, and finally make requests, so that the other party can understand me more easily. This book made me realize that real communication is about establishing understanding and connection. I especially like a sentence: "When we learn to listen, we can see the unmet needs in each other's hearts." This made me know that everyone who loses their temper and becomes emotional is actually just because a certain need in their heart has not been seen [shy][shy][shy][shy]

This book made me suddenly enlightened, and I realized the great role of language. It can warm people's hearts, and it can also pierce the heart. I hope that in the future life, I can give more warmth to the people around me: ① No longer hurt others with blunt words, learn to be more considerate of others' feelings in a roundabout way, and at the same time, you can clearly express your needs and improve your communication skills. ② Don't speculate on other people's intentions at will. Good and evil are just a thought in our mind. If we look at others with malice, it is impossible to gain a kind heart. ③ Complain less and recognize/appreciate others more. Criticism and accusation will not make things develop in a good direction. They will also breed resistance in others and worsen the progress of things. ④ If you don't accept the imperfections in your life peacefully and cherish the power of the moment, your inner inferiority and arrogance will only deplete yourself. ⑤ Maintain emotional stability. Important people need to be treated gently, rather than forcing others to behave "for her own good". Don't worry about chaos. Real love should give others more patience and proceed step by step. ⑥ Always be grateful and believe that "people's hearts are inherently kind." No one in the world wants to make things difficult for me. All resentment is due to the imbalance in my heart. I am grateful to the people who are still around me, who have created the beauty of the present, supported my future ideals, and allowed me to meet a better myself. Finally, I would like to express my gratitude to the author for his hard work, which makes me feel like "pushing through the clouds and seeing the moonlight". I no longer question myself because of other people's words, I no longer burst into tears because of other people's happiness, and I don't get angry with others because of my own emotions. I keep a peaceful mind, be optimistic, and share positive energy~

I first saw this book on Douyin, because "Non-violent communication is a communication method that allows people to express themselves honestly without criticizing, blaming or abusing others, and is committed to promoting mutual understanding and mutual help. It integrates language types, thinking methods and communication forms, emphasizing that behavioral motivations are kindness, not fear, guilt, etc." This sentence gave me the idea of ​​reading it. After reading this book, I feel that the most important elements are four elements: "observation, feeling, "Need, request", observe the facts without evaluating, feel the needs behind the other person's emotions, and express the other person's thoughts. Most people can speak, and most people need to learn to speak. The violence of language is also violence, and it is also subtle. Handling the communication between yourself and yourself, and handling the communication between yourself and others, may not change the entire environment, but it will bring you a friendly environment. You should speak well to the people you love and care about, right? No corporal punishment, no denial, no comparison, we ourselves and the people we love are all unique.

Jin Shengrong is a social science psychology book writer. In 2011, he published "FBI Mind Reading - The Super Psychological Code of the US Federal Police", "FBI Mind Reading - The Super Psychological Tactics of the US Federal Police" and other books, ranking first among similar books. Among them, "FBI Mind Reading" has continuously ranked first in the best-selling list of psychological books in the country from April to September 2011. The subsequent publication "FBI Mind Attack" is also among the top ten bestsellers in the psychological book category. Healing the secret pain deep in the heart; transcending personal mental and emotional limitations; breaking through the thinking patterns that cause anger, depression, anxiety and other negative emotions; resolving interpersonal conflicts in a non-harmful way; learning to build a harmonious life experience - these are the goals of "Nonviolent Communication".

A great book that taught me how to communicate with others through correct communication and how to avoid conflicts with others. While observing, feeling, and expressing my own thoughts, I should also pay attention to the feelings of others.

It is said that it is communication skills. In fact, for me, it may be more about letting me learn to understand my own feelings and the feelings of others. Stay calm, understand the reasons why you feel a certain way, and don't be controlled by emotions; stay tolerant, the world is diverse, different people have different personalities and thoughts, and they are still changing, don't hold narrow prejudice against anyone; stay grateful, don't be too dissatisfied with the world, there are too many things to be grateful for. In addition, you must learn to express yourself, which is another art worth learning.

A great book that made me realize how easy it is for us to subconsciously use violence to solve problems in our lives. Nonviolent communication can not only teach you how to communicate with others, how to communicate with yourself, and help you create harmonious interpersonal relationships, be in harmony with your heart, and reconcile with yourself, but the methodology in it has practical value. Think about it, do we subconsciously like to ask others from our own perspective in our daily habits? Unconsciously labeling others is actually not objective and is also human nature, but we can consciously avoid conflicts and violent communication with others in our lives. It's really good. The next step is to apply it in life to guide others to communicate harmoniously with you, listen more, don't interrupt others, and make sure that the other party understands what you express. Language has limitations, but repeated expression can close the gap and understand ideas. In this era, it is difficult for us to have the patience to understand others, so we feel lonely.

The huge energy brought by non-violent communication is beyond your imagination. Everyone will have their own aura around them. When some people speak, you feel that they are very strong and willing to follow them, while some people speak awkwardly and you can't hear what they are saying and you will be anxious. The art of communication is vividly explained in this book.

Teach people how to communicate with each other and on different occasions. You must learn to listen and express your feelings, learn how to make specific requests to others, and ask others to give feedback when making requests to reduce the occurrence of misunderstandings. Non-violent communication is used in a wide range of areas, ranging from society and the workplace to communication between husband and wife, parents and children. How to put yourself in someone else's shoes makes it easier for others to understand themselves, and understand each other's feelings at the same time, so that the relationship between people will become better and better.

Communication is the single-plank bridge connecting the other side to the other side, while non-violent communication is the broad road for friendly souls to love and success; language has the kindness to melt ice and relieve itching, but also has the malice to break bones and flesh. The language used in non-violent communication is like the fragrance of flowers that lingers for a long time. It will overflow and be contagious, and will make people get along with each other more lovingly and harmoniously in an unconscious way. From now on, I want to be a friendly person who abandons verbal violence and mental violence, and uses objective observation rather than subjective judgment to evaluate people or events. Pay more attention to yourself, understand and express your feelings well, don't be too stubborn and indifferent, in my world, "I" comes first, reject imperative requests, be loyal to your own feelings and needs, desires or anger, love yourself better, forgive yourself, and prevent yourself from being hurt. Be tolerant of others. To be a good listener, you must listen objectively from the perspective of the other person's perspective and value cognition; you must observe others without comment. We must learn to be grateful, know how to be grateful, learn to express specific gratitude, and express gratitude in a timely manner.

This book made me realize that superficial communication in daily life, such as evaluation, criticism, and accusation, is almost always an "alienated" emotional expression. Connecting with inner needs is the fundamental solution to communication barriers. "Nonviolent Communication" analyzes and applies the four elements of "observation, feeling, need, and request" to resolve conflicts from multiple levels. It has great practical significance! !

The content of this book that has the greatest impact on me is Chapter 2, "Four Elements of Nonviolent Communication." The author first lists the concentrated manifestations of "differentiation and observation": as well as needs and requests, etc., And then explains the communication patterns and fears. This provides a very simple and clear solution for most people who do not know how to use nonviolent communication, which is very beneficial. The ideas and stories in this book are intertwined, making it highly readable and very helpful in improving communication skills in a short period of time.

This book does not have many obscure definitions and is easy to read. The common communication methods that most of us use in life are yelling, complaining, blaming, and evaluating. This kind of violent communication is very harmful to intimate relationships. This book teaches you non-violent communication and improves communication efficiency from life situations. Non-violent communication has four elements: observation, feeling, need and request. Generally speaking, it means observing things objectively and describing them, putting aside personal thoughts and talking about actual feelings, expressing the real needs and demands of the moment calmly, and telling the other party clearly what our request is. Already put it into practice, the effect is ok.

Thank you to the Internet, thank you to this book, thank you to the people who introduced me to this book, thank you to Tomato novels for making me develop the habit of reading, thank you..., So many opportunities and coincidences have given me the opportunity to grow, and I am grateful for every beautiful coincidence [love]

After reading this book, I also took some notes. Non-violent communication is really important, especially its four elements: observation, feeling, demand, and request. People really need sincerity between people. Treat each other with sincerity, exchange hearts with each other, explain kindly, be tolerant and generous, and be sincere. Sorry, sincerity touches people. There is no need to argue so much about right and wrong in relationships. You must learn to show weakness. Then in the future life, I want to learn to listen, learn to find resonance, accept all emotions, do not blame, do not deny, after all, no one likes to do things they don't want to do.

This book is really useful. It taught me how to communicate better with people, handle interpersonal relationships well, and make myself more relaxed and happy when communicating with others.

Benefited a lot! I may chew on it over and over, but there is still a long way between knowing and doing it. I constantly remind myself and practice that non-violent communication can make the world better, make myself happier, and make the relationships around me more harmonious. I will continue to recommend it to people around me to read. It is really a good book.