How to Chat to Warm People's Hearts, How to Chat Without Being Cold

This book taught me that people who know how to chat are pretending to be someone else. It also taught me that there is one rule that must be followed when chatting - to make the other party hear what you are saying as clearly as possible, with clear direction and no ambiguity. Many words can have multiple meanings, it all depends on the occasion and the mood of the listener. When you make mistakes in key words, the other party will misunderstand your meaning and affect the effectiveness of communication. Read this book together and follow the author's steps to understand the art of chatting~

Among similar books, the explanation is the best, and it can clearly let people understand the essence. It is not boring, nor is it too general. It keeps focusing on the theme and understanding it at a deeper level. How to speak, there are not so many people who understand the truth and those who are polite are repeated. Everyone knows some things, but some books are still repeated and boring to read. Maybe there are things I need in them, but I will not have the patience to read them. This book has the clearest meaning! It's real talent and practical learning!

Listen carefully and chat warmly. Chatting is an art. We need to listen to each other carefully, understand their feelings and needs, and respond sincerely. Then express care and support through appropriate language to make the other party feel warm. When friends encounter difficulties, empathy for the difficulties, considerate greetings and encouragement can give them strength and encourage friends to get out of the difficulties. It's easy to fall into the cold shoulder. You just need to be dismissive of your friend's difficulties and treat them with condescending contempt, and you will lose a friend very quickly🐶. Whether you are communicating with colleagues at work or getting along with friends and family in life, mastering appropriate chat methods is very practical. For example, starting with each other's interests and hobbies can quickly bring them closer; For another example, avoid yes or no decision questions and try open-ended questions that can lead the other person to share more thoughts and experiences. [Three core questions] 1. What mistakes should be avoided in chatting? : Avoid criticism, self-centeredness, interrupting others, indifferent responses, etc. (For example, when discussing a problem with colleagues, someone always interrupts others and emphasizes his own point of view. This will make others feel unhappy, even if you may be right) 2. How to find a suitable chat topic? : Start with the other person's interests, hobbies, current hot topics, and common experiences. (When chatting with new friends, start with popular events and find common topics) 3. How much impact does chatting skills have on interpersonal relationships? : Good chatting skills can enhance interpersonal relationships and promote communication and understanding; otherwise, they may destroy relationships. (In the family, those who are good at communicating with their family members using appropriate language will have more harmonious family relationships; while those who do not pay attention to the way they speak can easily cause conflicts) Content Sharing 1. The real master of chatting is not the number of gorgeous words, but the ability to listen to the other party with your heart and respond with sincerity. 2. Chatting is not only a communication of words, but also a communication of souls. A warm look and an understanding smile may make the chat better. 3. Don't rush to express yourself, listen to the other person's story first, and you will find more wonderful and moving things. 4. Use appropriate language to praise the other person, which will make the other person feel special and make the chat atmosphere more harmonious. 5. It's not scary to be in a cold spot when chatting. What's scary is not having the courage and methods to break the cold spot.

After reading this book, I summarized 18 points: 1. When persuading others, use the other person's behavior to deduce unfavorable results. 2. When facing difficulties, seize the loopholes in the other person's point of view and treat them in the same way. 3. Use "delayed reaction" to understand the other party's intentions When knowing something or communicating with a person, do not think, respond or take action immediately. Let your thinking reaction be delayed for a while to wait for the other party's statement or action. 4. Only by letting others finish their words can you understand what they are saying. 5. What you hear and see may not be true, so don't rush to conclusions. 6. Right and wrong are not the key in life. Empathy is the common need of human nature. When you want to declare your demands, you must consider the other party's principles and seek common ground while reserving differences. 7. Don't ask questions or inquire into other people's privacy. Because the very purposeful inquiry is not out of our concern, but to show your malice. 8. Don't say bad things about people behind their backs, and rarely say good things about people in person. 9. Respect each other's preferences. 10. It is better to ask questions in a self-blaming way than to blame. 11. No one likes to be rejected, so you should "blame yourself" before rejecting others. 12. Use your own frustrations to comfort the other person. 13. Don't be an afterthought when others make mistakes. Stop mentioning what happened before, and give more comfort and help to find a solution, so that the other person will truly appreciate you. 14. Think of others when sharing achievements, and mention yourself when taking responsibility. 15. Offer your value first, then see what you can get in exchange. If you are looking for a job or seeking cooperation with others, the first thing you should talk about is what value you can bring to the other person, rather than just saying what you want. 16. Exploring information through cold reading and guessing 17. Open the topic through a third party 18. Don't reason with women, don't play with emotions with men.

Awesome book, I really like it

Everyone can speak, but not everyone can speak. Similarly, when speaking, some people can achieve the desired effect and close the relationship with others; for some people, it has the opposite effect. As the saying goes, "it's a pity that you have a mouth." The author's purpose is to teach us how to talk, and the strategies he proposes are designed to make others feel comfortable and keep the conversation going. It is worth noting that being able to speak is not a pure skill. It also involves how to correctly understand the relationship between people, "put others in mind", put yourself in others' shoes, think about good questions about others, express your own ideas accurately, and constantly raise new questions. Even during debates, the bottom line of communication is maintained. These principles have practical guiding significance for me.

From the moment we are born, we must learn to chat with others, learn to listen, and learn to express our thoughts. However, even if we are gifted with the ability to speak, the more we grow up, the more we will find that chatting is not an ability that naturally increases as we grow. On the contrary, we will find that those who were popular and good at talking when they were young are not as good at chatting as they were when they were young. What is the reason for this? In fact, chatting is also a skill that needs to be developed. Techniques are like a dragonfly scratching the surface of water, but it is difficult to get to the essence of the problem. This book is comprehensive in content, both theoretical and practical. It is a good reference for improving personal chat skills and emotional intelligence. At the end of the book, the author also appends 60 golden rules for "chatting with warmth". Through intentional practice and practice, readers can apply them in life and work, and finally turn them into their own abilities.

This book taught me that people who know how to chat are pretending to be someone else. It also taught me that there is one rule that must be followed when chatting - to make the other party hear what you are saying as clearly as possible, with clear direction and no ambiguity. Many words can have multiple meanings, it all depends on the occasion and the mood of the listener. When you make mistakes in key words, the other party will misunderstand your meaning and affect the effectiveness of communication. Read this book together and follow the author's steps to understand the art of chatting~

You will gain a lot from reading this book. You can read it when you have time.

I loved the example in the book about "good questions" and it made me realize that a good question can make a conversation more interesting. Moreover, the book also says that we must learn to see problems from other people's perspectives so that we can chat better. I think this book is very helpful to me. I want to study hard so that I won't be left in the cold when chatting with others in the future!

This book not only tells us how to chat, but also tells us how to chat together. The author proposes many methodologies. For example, we can stimulate everyone's discussion by asking a question that everyone is interested in, we can achieve a common goal through agreement, and we can set a topic to arouse everyone's interest. Chatting is not just a pastime, it can be interesting, it can also promote things, and it can promote the progress of things in discussions.

Real and objective, especially the last 60 points are worth learning.

The book is very detailed, so you have to be patient. Tell yourself that you have to persist in reading a book.

I'm in a very bad mood today

There are many methods and principles worth learning and practicing. Some of the examples given are long and some short, but they are quite vivid. The content planning is clearly classified and not too boring.

I was inspired after reading it, and it's helpful for someone like me who is the ultimate chat person.

A book that made me want to read it again

This book is written like an argumentative essay, and the arguments and arguments can be clearly seen.

It is written in great detail and is worth reading in depth.

You also need to use your brain when talking! [Adoration]

It's pretty good, it's helpful for communication and relationships! Grateful

Ok ok ok

Some points are well said

You can learn from this book as a textbook. You can read one page every day and another one tomorrow.

Read this book and learn to respect, listen, and use each other's keywords.

This book inspired me very much. Originally, I really wanted to communicate with others, but I spoke less because I was afraid that I would make others uncomfortable by saying something during the conversation.

It's a very good book, I like it very much