Narrow Gate

The supreme love turned into tragedy. The characters' personalities are all three-dimensional and distinct, and the plot is well designed. It illustrates a paradox of love. When I am close to you, I am close to pain. When I am far away from you, I am far away from happiness.

Alyssa's words are so classic: What hurts me most is not that you let go of my hand, but that I feel that my hand is not comfortable in your hand. Even if you don't let go, I will let go.

It's a very beautiful book. It's a very restrained book. The emotional descriptions are particularly delicate and there's not a single word of nonsense. The emotions are very depressing, and it is quite uncomfortable to watch, but it is also this kind of forbearing love that makes people remember it for a long time. It is suitable for reading when one calms down. You may not like it, but you will definitely feel it. Love is broad, faith is narrow. Alyssa would rather walk through the "narrow door" than go to Jerome, but it's not that Alyssa doesn't love him, it's just that she chose the "narrow door" that is more difficult to walk - not for herself, just for her soul. There is actually a narrow door in everyone's heart, which leads to ideals, beliefs or some higher goals, but the price may be the loss of love and human fireworks.

They love each other from the beginning to the end, but they all feel unworthy because of their love for each other, so they all invariably improve themselves and let everything about themselves appear in each other's lives. Because they were once within reach, short-term loss will only make them irritated, and they will be in a trance after real loss. Just like Alyssa at the end, the departure of your lover is the rainy season of your life. You were born for her, but because she loves you deeply, you even lose the opportunity to die for love. Live, Jerome, your very existence is her relic. Be with the ideal Alyssa forever... Until you walk through the narrow door and face God directly

"The Narrow Gate" showed me a deep and complicated love story. Alyssa and Jérôme believed in each other and worked hard to pursue virtue and happiness, but they drifted apart in the process of pursuit. The sentence in the book, "I finally felt that all the correspondence between us was just a big phantom, and each of us was just writing to ourselves" profoundly reveals the helplessness and sadness between them. This book makes people think deeply about love, happiness and the meaning of life.

Apart from the romanticism, I only see a poor person who has been brainwashed by false doctrines, suppresses worldly desires, and makes self-sacrifice wishfully.

The plot revolves around the love between Jerome and his cousin Alyssa. They love each other, but Alyssa pursues moral perfection, constantly restrains her feelings, and achieves spiritual sublimity by staying away from Jerome. Although Jerome tried hard to follow her, he was always blocked by Alyssa's mental disorder. In the end, Alyssa died from self-torture, and Jerome spent the rest of his life immersed in the memories and thoughts of this love. The plot shows the difficult situation of love between ideal and reality, spirit and body.

If you are close to you, you will be close to pain; if you are far away, you will be far away from happiness. Alyssa, the love you believe in is so pure and flawless, but real love is always mixed with flaws. You shut yourself in that narrow door and measure your lover with God as the standard in the spiritual world - God is always perfect, so you decide that your love with Jerome is full of shortcomings. You retreat step by step and escape again and again, building a cage for yourself that does not need to exist. In the end, you chose self-sacrifice out of self-doubt, ending the struggle between illusion and reality and heading towards the end of destruction. Alyssa, may you find the peace you crave, and may you have the courage to embrace reality—with all its imperfections.

Reminding me of Salinger, love wants to touch but takes back. They are in love, but Alyssa feels that only by staying away from Roger can she truly love him and have noble virtues. In the end, Alyssa died young, and Rogerim spent the rest of his life with her memories.

There is a reason, the Nobel Prize is well-deserved After reading this, if you first look at yourself, you will find that you have a true awe of love from the bottom of your heart, as well as the fear of love due to human humility.

We love each other deeply, and love lasts throughout our lives. It makes us happy, it makes life beautiful, it also makes life boring, it gives us a second life, and it also makes us die.

Love is like nectar, which makes people ecstatic; it is also like a mirror, separating you and me on both sides.

It was really uncomfortable after reading it╯╰, that night was too cold, and Alyssa's words scratched Jerome's heart like a very thin blade, dividing them. Alyssa wrote in her diary, "Why haven't you come yet?" But she forgot that her urging to take off the cross necklace made him sad. She was twisted and twisted. She pursued lofty love, ideal love, and paranoidly regarded Jerome as a heavy burden for the soul to ascend. She insists on believing that only by being separated from each other and climbing up in loneliness can she be pious to God and pursue holy love. She criticizes and suppresses herself in the name of extreme loftiness, which ultimately leads to tragedy. As for Jerome, his deep love has become the cross on her soul. The distance that can never be reached is the ideal love. "The narrow gate is too small, and two people cannot pass through it side by side." The narrow gate is really too small, so why can't two people pass through it side by side? It is the narrow gate of the human heart. It is the stubborn and paranoid human heart that compresses the door of love into a narrow gate, allowing only one person to pass through. Love is inherently unreasonable, so why should we stubbornly pursue the so-called sublimity? I hope that you can meet Him who is destined to be you. I also hope that your "narrow door" can allow two people to pass through. I also hope that your "narrow door" can lead to heaven.

Each of us may, at some stage in our lives, fantasize, long for platonic love, or even despise secular love. At the same time, I feel helpless and painful because this kind of love cannot exist in reality. I even complain about love itself and lose confidence in it. (I was once one of them) But this book is a potion that disenchants this seemingly ideal love. In the first half of the book, Jérôme and Alyssa show the beauty of this ideal love, which is completely in line with our aspirations. However, as the story progresses, traces of sadness and entanglement gradually emerge, and finally explode. Gide tears away the veil of platonic love for us, allowing us to see the hidden dangers and flaws beneath its seemingly flawless exterior. He did not use intense dramatic conflicts to promote this transformation, but revealed the flaws from the seemingly perfect appearance through letters and daily meetings. During the reading process, the scene in his mind seemed to gradually dim from the bright and intoxicating spring scenery until it turned into a gray reality. It leads us to think about whether true love can exist only through idealized pursuits, or whether it will only be reduced to the pursuit of phantoms in the heart, or the pursuit of one's own inner ideal projection, like a beautiful and empty bubble. This book is thought-provoking and can be called a masterpiece

Vulgar people play your love tunes in a dilapidated manner. I stand in your eyes and rearrange the tunes in my mind until you and I are connected.

The heroine Alyssa's childhood tragedy caused her to mature prematurely and gave her a glimpse of the desolation after the failure of love. She longs for love and companionship, but she is also afraid of the ruin that will occur after the relationship leaves. The male protagonist gave the female protagonist a light when he was young. This light was warm and fiery, making the female protagonist feel unworthy. She felt that when the male protagonist gained knowledge, she would find true happiness, and she would also reach the narrow door to happiness in Christianity by helping others. But the heroine's feelings for the hero keep her getting closer to the most perfect image in Christianity. She wants to make herself perfect and worthy of the hero. But she has always had low self-esteem, and this shadow left by her childhood has become her instinct, making her feel that she needs to sacrifice herself to maintain the happiness of others just like she did in her childhood. She does not deserve happiness, and she keeps using religion to hypnotize herself. But my own emotions tell me that if it weren't for the male protagonist, this god is nothing. This religion is just a tool for me to restrain my inferiority complex, my sense of sacrifice, and an excuse for sacrifice to make me feel at ease. As for the male protagonist, he wants to become a more dazzling sun for the female protagonist. He respects the female protagonist and meets her needs. He is afraid that his behavior will bring pain to the heroine, so he keeps pushing himself to make himself more perfect and more "interesting" in the eyes of the heroine. However, as early as childhood, the heroine has already hinted that the hero is the person she thinks is outstanding. Both parties want to make the other party better, but they dare not directly ask the other party why they do this. They are afraid that the other party will become unlike themselves because of them. They are afraid of hearing unsatisfactory answers. They are demanding and attached, but one party wants to dedicate me and sacrifice me to become your martyr. This is destined to become a tragedy. (I watched it alone in the dormitory and burst into tears[cry][cry][cry][cry][cry][cry])

I haven't finished reading it yet, and I will probably review it again after reading it, but for now, I am deeply moved by this somewhat tortuous love story. Due to some of my personal experiences, there are many places that I can bring into and find resonance with. Their psychology and many subtle feelings are conveyed to my heart through letters or some small words and deeds, triggering my association... It is recommended that people who have experienced love (especially those that are not perfect) take a look and feel more deeply. 😢😢

"The Narrow Gate" "To be close to you is to be close to pain Staying away from you means staying away from happiness."

Why should you dedicate, why should you sacrifice, your so-called praise is just a tool to satisfy your so-called happiness, you love Jerome too deeply, you don't love yourself, your escape, your silence, everything you call is just a lie you weave together, Alyssa, your faith is just a tool to carry your turbulent love, you get secret pleasure in pain, oh poor Alyssa

A rugged and endless road of love. I love you very much, but I always express my feelings in the opposite direction. Love has too many concerns and worries. I want to hold it in my hand, but when I get to him, I push him far away.

I always feel that the narrow gate is a test from God to you and me. I hope that you will not be troubled by love, so you can cover up and escape endlessly from the heart that keeps you by my side. And you don't know that without you, my love and happiness, I would never have walked through the narrow door in my life. Isn't this kind of loyal love for each other entering the narrow door in any era? Is the narrow gate really so narrow that only one person can pass through it? In a sense, you and I have walked through the narrow gate.

After I finished reading this book, I thought the love between them was ridiculous and sad. The reason why this book is called a masterpiece is that it does not follow the routine. The male protagonist infatuatedly pursues the preferences of the female protagonist to frame himself, and uses the conventional lifestyle to progress and grow. His goal is to achieve the ultimate goal of happiness, that is, marrying the female protagonist. This is the ultimate state of love that he can understand, and they will grow old together in this life and walk into the bridal chamber hand in hand. To a certain extent, he made great self-sacrifice, excluded social interaction, limited his knowledge absorption, and lost certain challenges and even entertainment in the eyes of his peers. All his starting points revolve around the female protagonist. On the other hand, the heroine, yes, she also made self-sacrifice and concessions, but I think it is a bit superficial in a worldly sense, because she sacrificed the happiness of the hero, that is, she did not agree to marry him, for the so-called narrow door (pure eternal happiness, entering the kingdom of heaven). She ignored the male protagonist's current despair and pain. She knowingly did so, which violated the happy marriage contract. Secondly, I think the heroine was indeed brainwashed to a deep level. The plot in the middle was too unnatural, the heroine's changes were caught off guard, and there was no emotional test between them (except for physical isolation). Her ideas have undergone substantial changes with the teaching of books (that is, God's guidance), which is surprising. It is euphemistically called pure and eternal, but I think this is a bit worldly and narrow-minded, and the cost is that the male protagonist suffers a devastating blow. Although pure love may exist, it should not be realized in this way, because this is God's straw team. If the heroine makes pure self-sacrifice for it, then this is undoubtedly great and respectable, but the problem is that she drags the hero into this hell. So this is a sad and tearful love caused by serious deviation of values ​​and views. The female protagonist is very pitiful and was finally written to death by the author (for plot needs, etc.). But this method is not worthy of praise, because she has been living in the lie of God since then, and even the male protagonist's intervention is of no avail.

The gate is so narrow that only one person can pass through it The narrow gate is wide, but it cannot accommodate all living beings.

What makes me most uncomfortable is not that your hand lets go of mine, but that I feel that even if your hand doesn't, my hand will do the same - it no longer wants to stay in your hand.

We all use what we think is the most perfect way to make love twists and turns. There is no doubt that I love you deeply, but I desperately find that when you are far away from me, I love you deeper...

The understanding of love in this book is really different from ordinary people and supreme, which makes people sigh and feel regretful.

Young people may be more sympathetic. The two protagonists have no pressure to survive, so they pursue the noblest and purest love inwardly. It is difficult for one person to do it, but two people can regard each other as a goal, supervision, and criterion to persevere. The description of the soul is very delicate and can arouse readers' reflection.

When I first read it, I thought that the relationship between the male and female protagonists was too strong to be separated, so why did they separate. Until the end, Alyssa always fulfilled others but never herself. Fortunately, Jerome only fulfilled Alyssa. After reading through it, I was surprised to realize that I am also such a person. Although there is no so-called faith to help me help others, I can't help it. In high school, I'm afraid I really met someone I liked very much, but after all, it's high school and the outcome is uncertain. I seem to have seen that at the end of our senior year, we will cry and say goodbye, maybe we will be together, but that is just maybe. I couldn't bear this separation, so I never started. Even though I was happy to find that the other person also liked me, I could only keep hiding, as if only in this way the pain would stay away from me, but I also found that this was also a kind of pain. I didn't know how to weigh the two. This kind of pain, all I can do is let the natural pain fall on me, and constantly avoid the avoidable pain. Maybe the pain that naturally falls on me will slowly fade over time, or it will slowly ferment over time. I am afraid that I will continue to walk with a heart boiled by pain.

As a potential user of avoidant attachment, I call it a dual-perspective documentary text of avoidant attachment. As an avoidant, Alyssa's desire to get closer to fanatical love and questioning the purity and essence of love are a typical feature. It is also a common operation to reluctantly leave because you find that the other person is suffering because of your love. Because I love you more than myself, I would rather make myself suffer to support you. Everyone makes the choice they think is best, which is ultimately a tragedy for everyone.

Christianity places too much emphasis on so-called sacrifice, and loves oneself too much to bring about a sense of atonement for oneself... This is the first time I have seen such a highly spiritually resonant love, a love that looks like a mirror but relies on each other. Distance makes this love more concentrated and heavier, the pinnacle of beauty, and any excess content makes it no longer perfect. So they also know that they are also afraid of meeting each other and breaking this perfect love. This kind of love is not something ordinary people can bear, really. Of course, after reading this book, I am more convinced that love is an illusion between myself and the person I see modified, floating in mid-air or in the vacuum universe, a mesmerizing beauty; and happiness allows two people to accompany each other and walk down-to-earth in the secular world. It's hard to say which one is better. The best thing about this book is that it unabashedly exposes the protagonist's inner confession, which is the deepest joy and shame.