Super best-selling author Han Meimei's new heart-warming work, the sequel to "Never Look to Others for Security".
The book contains 9 essays and insights, telling the experiences of 9 women with different growth environments, different personalities, different ages, and different destinies. Like all ordinary women, they have been mired in uneasy emotional swamps, but at some point in their lives, they made a seemingly difficult choice: they no longer look for security in the external world, but constantly improve themselves and enrich their hearts, thus gaining a satisfying sense of security. Han Meimei wants to tell everyone through these ordinary and warm stories: Life is inherently unsafe. Only by fully understanding this, will we not care about what we have, miss what we don't have, fear of losing, or pursue coercion. Never look to others for a sense of security, because the only one who can give you a sense of security is yourself.
Reader comments
I gave four stars because Tomato is strict with authors, so I gave it more, but in fact it seems a bit... I've read it several times, and it's either cheating or cheating. And some words are more or less... Let me give you an example.
The mistress and the principal wife were chatting there, and the principal wife advised the mistress to find someone similar and get married. But isn't fidelity to marriage the most basic thing? If a man can't control his lower body, it's impossible for me to learn to accept it. Why is it that after the fall of the Qing Dynasty for so long, he still plays with his wife and his wife? It's okay to let me accept it. From now on, we can all do our own thing. Why does he ask me to do something he can't do?
And Xiaoqing's place, that's where I retreated from. What did Xiaoqing's mother say? Did it sound like "Whenever I go to your house, I must respect you and be disciplined, and I will not disobey the Master." How long have you been promoting this?
The introduction given by the author is warm and HE (good ending), but I only see compromise. If this tells me that women must learn to compromise when getting married, then I would rather not marry
This book is well written, enlightening the troubles of a young girl in love, and describing the importance of money in life. The characters in the book are lifelike and reflect their role in society.
① "No matter how many sweet words you say, nothing can compare to the peace of mind you feel when you have a one million bank card in your hand. If you don't believe it, you can feel it after you earn it!" I feel very good about this sentence. If you have money, you will have confidence and not be afraid of unknown things, and it will also make girls more confident (make money through your own efforts!)
② "A man is actually a very smart animal. He actually knows very well what kind of woman is suitable to spend the rest of his life with. A mistress is just an adjustment in life." This also shows that boys are not stupid. It also writes from the side that girls should not listen to boys' sweet words. The most important thing is not to look at what he says, but to look at what he does! ! !
③ "Doing things seriously can alleviate the inner anxiety." This sentence made me understand that no matter what situation you are in, whether you are in a bad mood, lonely, feeling abandoned by the world, or have some inferiority complex, you can do something that makes you devote yourself, and then you will gain inner peace, such as reading, painting, practicing calligraphy, etc., Which can become the driving force for self-improvement.
Finally, I highly recommend everyone to read it!
This book is really suitable for women to read. From this book, I saw many women with different lives. I benefited a lot from this book. I highly recommend it to everyone. The story is very interesting and not boring.
It uses very simple language to write about the life of ordinary people, which has its ups and downs and is full of vitality. It's a bit like Teacher Yu Hua's "To Live", but not so tragic. They have the sweetness of falling in love, the suffering of falling out of love, the stickiness of meeting, and the calmness of separation... These various aspects of life are what people have to experience in their lives. These emotions are conveyed in words, and they are thought-provoking every time they are read.
As a woman, I feel sad after reading many stories. I hope that all girls can be like Ye Zi, with ideals in their hearts, chasing the distance, patrolling the world with determination and composure, and not being devastated by breakups and unemployment, and achieving self-growth.
This is what I want to pursue. It is your own choice whether to get married. I hope that all girls can meet their true love and live their marriage how they want. I want to tell myself and all girls that materialism is not a sin. It is for our better life, to better help people in need in this world, and to prove ourselves with actions.
"Money is not everything, but nothing is impossible without money."
Never look to others for security. We should all live our lives first, love ourselves, have a job, have savings, and be confident, so that we will not be easily impressed by bad people with pandering and material things. You should make money while you are young, because with money you will have the confidence and courage to pursue everything you want. Even if you are broken up in love, don't keep questioning and doubting yourself. You are fine, but you are not suitable, so don't waste your youth on someone who gives you more pain than happiness. Separation is a good thing. There will always be problems in a long marriage. It is natural for men to cheat. The key lies in whether they can withstand the temptation. Don't look for security in others. Even if we have parents, husbands, and children, no matter what, we will still be lonely in the end. People have to get used to it. Therefore, women should understand as early as possible: life is very short. Don't sacrifice yourself all the time for your family and children. You should love yourself first. If you have love in your heart, then give the overflowing love to others. Your husband and children will also receive love. Only in this way will you be happy.
After reading the first few chapters, I feel scared about getting married and cheating. It's very real. When you get married, you have to think about whether you can accept the cracks, flaws, and plainness. Men have completely different faces before and after marriage. This reminds me of my father, who cheated me into marrying my mother. In the end, my mother suffered a lifetime of suffering, and I also became very alienated from him. Everyone has their own destiny. In the past, my mother and I always thought that my father would get better, but now I don't think so, because in the next few chapters I learned very important knowledge. A girl's youth is limited. She must live for herself, live the life she wants, refuse things she doesn't want to do, and stay away from people who are internally conflicting. , I won't be at a loss to eat a good meal when my family needs it... I am a precocious and sober person. I admit what the book says, people whose native families lack love will be easily moved by other people's benefits and small details, but as the title of the book says, only you can give yourself a sense of security. Sufficient financial ability is comparable to ten thousand "I love you" words and thousands of sweet words. I will not take money as everything in my life, but I will work hard to make money and live the life I want. Learn more knowledge and take the first step bravely in more fields. I sincerely thank the author, I have gained a lot from this book!
Is this the end? What about rice grains?
The conclusion is that you can't trust anyone, have zero expectations, learn to love yourself and be alone with yourself, even if you are married, you should live with yourself! Inside the mature man is a little boy who is constantly causing trouble! So don't think too brightly. When you encounter difficulties, remember to put your own feelings first, be kind to yourself, and remember to let yourself go first!
I just turned 18 this year and I am a very insecure person. After reading this book, I was particularly touched. People who are insecure, whether they are men or women, should slowly accept life on their own, become confident and cheerful, love themselves, accept their weaknesses, and then insist on making themselves stronger. I wish everyone can become confident in life and refuse to feel inferior! Come on! 🌹
It's very interesting. Now I have opened my eyes to love. I don't have any expectations and just let nature take its course. I no longer worry about gains and losses because of love and make noises. In just a few autumns of life, we are all passers-by in a hurry. Focus on yourself, go see the mountains and the sea, and enjoy life.
The more I read this book, the more I want to read it. It also gave me a lot of insights. Everything in life is boring depending on how you go about it. As long as you are in a happy mood and have goals, it will be sunny everywhere.
I read it in one breath and had endless aftertaste. In fact, they are all living people, with real lives. I think that I am 35 years old this year, and I have once again reached a crossroads in my life. I am lucky to have read this book, which makes me cautious when choosing a spouse again. It is better to be deficient than excessive, grow up on your own, and become more beautiful as you live.
It's very interesting and feels very everyday, unlike those exaggerated stories, and the small stories one after another are more attractive to people like me. Another thing is that although they are all very ordinary little stories, they all contain great truths.
It's very interesting. People can really only rely on themselves. If you are lucky enough to meet a noble person, they can help you, but you still have to work hard to become your support.
There are all kinds of life, good and bad. Everyone will inevitably meet a few wrong people in their life, but we should not just stick to this thing. Maybe we want companionship and happiness. It is hard to say whether one person is happier or two people. Be a better self first, grow first, and don't place your hope on another person. Happiness will slowly get closer to you as you get better. You will be happy whether there is another person or not.
The article is full of ups and downs and won my heart. The content is rich and interesting, and the characters are vivid and interesting. People can't help but immerse themselves in the situation. The characters are very distinctive, which makes people want to read more. Unknowingly, I still have more to read at the end.
The bloody scenes are very real, the horse-catching scenes are very real, and the reversals are very real. It has a very good warning effect on girls, I personally think. But in my heart I still want to believe that there is pure and eternal love [almost crying]
This book made me realize about marital infidelity. I figured out that infidelity is not terrible. Everyone has cheating on men. People... All they want is to be interested in something new and interesting. Plus, I love the person I love very much. I don't want to give up anymore and I will get angry and save my body. So let it go and let him go.
Everyone's life is different. You should feel it with your heart, live hard, and live your life well. Having said that, sometimes I feel that my understanding of life is very superficial. There are many things that many people don't understand. Looking back on many experiences, I might not do that.
I like it so much. It's because of the security issue recently, but it's not because of romance, it's about friendship. To be precise, it's possessiveness, and the mood is very unstable. Then I read this book, which inspired me and benefited me a lot. It's well written and clean, and it's worth reflecting on. It's a very good book!
This book is a combination of multiple protagonists and multiple stories, telling from different angles and different positions that women must give themselves a sense of security and cannot take it from others. After reading this book, I really feel that life is impermanent and full of various situations. If you want to be happy, you must be strong and good for yourself. In the end, any relationship is just an acquaintance, and you can carefully understand it according to your destiny.
A very interesting book, composed of several stories, mainly about love and marriage from a female perspective. Most of the girls in the story have been hurt, but they have grown up tenaciously. I can see my own shadow in them more or less, so reading is a dialogue with myself.
After reading it, I really felt comfortable. People still need to learn to cherish themselves and improve their abilities. Money is more important. If you have money, no matter how hard your life is, it will be easier.
That's it. It's not enough. I still want to watch it (๑•́ωก̀๑)
Women should boldly be themselves. Don't try to find a sense of security in others or among relatives and friends. Rely on yourself and live for yourself. Women should have their own ideas and improve themselves to gain the greatest sense of security.
I have been in a bad mood for the past two days due to emotional matters. I don't want to find anyone to talk to, and I feel boring. I was surprised to see this book. After reading it, I figured out many things. Thank you to the author for writing such a good book! Benefited a lot! ! !
I like the books you wrote and feel comfortable reading them.
I haven't been able to calm down and read lately, but I read this book seriously, and my impatience has been relieved a lot.
In the early stage, it really made people feel indifferent and despairing. Later, the more I read, the warmer I felt.
I gave four stars because Tomato is strict with authors, so I gave it more, but in fact it seems a bit... I've read it several times, and it's either cheating or cheating. And some words are more or less... Let me give you an example. The mistress and the principal wife were chatting there, and the principal wife advised the mistress to find someone similar and get married. But isn't fidelity to marriage the most basic thing? If a man can't control his lower body, it's impossible for me to learn to accept it. Why is it that after the fall of the Qing Dynasty for so long, he still plays with his wife and his wife? It's okay to let me accept it. From now on, we can all do our own thing. Why does he ask me to do something he can't do? And Xiaoqing's place, that's where I retreated from. What did Xiaoqing's mother say? Did it sound like "Whenever I go to your house, I must respect you and be disciplined, and I will not disobey the Master." How long have you been promoting this? The introduction given by the author is warm and HE (good ending), but I only see compromise. If this tells me that women must learn to compromise when getting married, then I would rather not marry
This book is well written, enlightening the troubles of a young girl in love, and describing the importance of money in life. The characters in the book are lifelike and reflect their role in society. ① "No matter how many sweet words you say, nothing can compare to the peace of mind you feel when you have a one million bank card in your hand. If you don't believe it, you can feel it after you earn it!" I feel very good about this sentence. If you have money, you will have confidence and not be afraid of unknown things, and it will also make girls more confident (make money through your own efforts!) ② "A man is actually a very smart animal. He actually knows very well what kind of woman is suitable to spend the rest of his life with. A mistress is just an adjustment in life." This also shows that boys are not stupid. It also writes from the side that girls should not listen to boys' sweet words. The most important thing is not to look at what he says, but to look at what he does! ! ! ③ "Doing things seriously can alleviate the inner anxiety." This sentence made me understand that no matter what situation you are in, whether you are in a bad mood, lonely, feeling abandoned by the world, or have some inferiority complex, you can do something that makes you devote yourself, and then you will gain inner peace, such as reading, painting, practicing calligraphy, etc., Which can become the driving force for self-improvement. Finally, I highly recommend everyone to read it!
This book is really suitable for women to read. From this book, I saw many women with different lives. I benefited a lot from this book. I highly recommend it to everyone. The story is very interesting and not boring.
It uses very simple language to write about the life of ordinary people, which has its ups and downs and is full of vitality. It's a bit like Teacher Yu Hua's "To Live", but not so tragic. They have the sweetness of falling in love, the suffering of falling out of love, the stickiness of meeting, and the calmness of separation... These various aspects of life are what people have to experience in their lives. These emotions are conveyed in words, and they are thought-provoking every time they are read.
As a woman, I feel sad after reading many stories. I hope that all girls can be like Ye Zi, with ideals in their hearts, chasing the distance, patrolling the world with determination and composure, and not being devastated by breakups and unemployment, and achieving self-growth. This is what I want to pursue. It is your own choice whether to get married. I hope that all girls can meet their true love and live their marriage how they want. I want to tell myself and all girls that materialism is not a sin. It is for our better life, to better help people in need in this world, and to prove ourselves with actions. "Money is not everything, but nothing is impossible without money."
Never look to others for security. We should all live our lives first, love ourselves, have a job, have savings, and be confident, so that we will not be easily impressed by bad people with pandering and material things. You should make money while you are young, because with money you will have the confidence and courage to pursue everything you want. Even if you are broken up in love, don't keep questioning and doubting yourself. You are fine, but you are not suitable, so don't waste your youth on someone who gives you more pain than happiness. Separation is a good thing. There will always be problems in a long marriage. It is natural for men to cheat. The key lies in whether they can withstand the temptation. Don't look for security in others. Even if we have parents, husbands, and children, no matter what, we will still be lonely in the end. People have to get used to it. Therefore, women should understand as early as possible: life is very short. Don't sacrifice yourself all the time for your family and children. You should love yourself first. If you have love in your heart, then give the overflowing love to others. Your husband and children will also receive love. Only in this way will you be happy.
After reading the first few chapters, I feel scared about getting married and cheating. It's very real. When you get married, you have to think about whether you can accept the cracks, flaws, and plainness. Men have completely different faces before and after marriage. This reminds me of my father, who cheated me into marrying my mother. In the end, my mother suffered a lifetime of suffering, and I also became very alienated from him. Everyone has their own destiny. In the past, my mother and I always thought that my father would get better, but now I don't think so, because in the next few chapters I learned very important knowledge. A girl's youth is limited. She must live for herself, live the life she wants, refuse things she doesn't want to do, and stay away from people who are internally conflicting. , I won't be at a loss to eat a good meal when my family needs it... I am a precocious and sober person. I admit what the book says, people whose native families lack love will be easily moved by other people's benefits and small details, but as the title of the book says, only you can give yourself a sense of security. Sufficient financial ability is comparable to ten thousand "I love you" words and thousands of sweet words. I will not take money as everything in my life, but I will work hard to make money and live the life I want. Learn more knowledge and take the first step bravely in more fields. I sincerely thank the author, I have gained a lot from this book!
Is this the end? What about rice grains? The conclusion is that you can't trust anyone, have zero expectations, learn to love yourself and be alone with yourself, even if you are married, you should live with yourself! Inside the mature man is a little boy who is constantly causing trouble! So don't think too brightly. When you encounter difficulties, remember to put your own feelings first, be kind to yourself, and remember to let yourself go first!
I just turned 18 this year and I am a very insecure person. After reading this book, I was particularly touched. People who are insecure, whether they are men or women, should slowly accept life on their own, become confident and cheerful, love themselves, accept their weaknesses, and then insist on making themselves stronger. I wish everyone can become confident in life and refuse to feel inferior! Come on! 🌹
It's very interesting. Now I have opened my eyes to love. I don't have any expectations and just let nature take its course. I no longer worry about gains and losses because of love and make noises. In just a few autumns of life, we are all passers-by in a hurry. Focus on yourself, go see the mountains and the sea, and enjoy life.
The more I read this book, the more I want to read it. It also gave me a lot of insights. Everything in life is boring depending on how you go about it. As long as you are in a happy mood and have goals, it will be sunny everywhere.
I read it in one breath and had endless aftertaste. In fact, they are all living people, with real lives. I think that I am 35 years old this year, and I have once again reached a crossroads in my life. I am lucky to have read this book, which makes me cautious when choosing a spouse again. It is better to be deficient than excessive, grow up on your own, and become more beautiful as you live.
It's very interesting and feels very everyday, unlike those exaggerated stories, and the small stories one after another are more attractive to people like me. Another thing is that although they are all very ordinary little stories, they all contain great truths.
It's very interesting. People can really only rely on themselves. If you are lucky enough to meet a noble person, they can help you, but you still have to work hard to become your support.
There are all kinds of life, good and bad. Everyone will inevitably meet a few wrong people in their life, but we should not just stick to this thing. Maybe we want companionship and happiness. It is hard to say whether one person is happier or two people. Be a better self first, grow first, and don't place your hope on another person. Happiness will slowly get closer to you as you get better. You will be happy whether there is another person or not.
The article is full of ups and downs and won my heart. The content is rich and interesting, and the characters are vivid and interesting. People can't help but immerse themselves in the situation. The characters are very distinctive, which makes people want to read more. Unknowingly, I still have more to read at the end.
The bloody scenes are very real, the horse-catching scenes are very real, and the reversals are very real. It has a very good warning effect on girls, I personally think. But in my heart I still want to believe that there is pure and eternal love [almost crying]
This book made me realize about marital infidelity. I figured out that infidelity is not terrible. Everyone has cheating on men. People... All they want is to be interested in something new and interesting. Plus, I love the person I love very much. I don't want to give up anymore and I will get angry and save my body. So let it go and let him go.
Everyone's life is different. You should feel it with your heart, live hard, and live your life well. Having said that, sometimes I feel that my understanding of life is very superficial. There are many things that many people don't understand. Looking back on many experiences, I might not do that.
I like it so much. It's because of the security issue recently, but it's not because of romance, it's about friendship. To be precise, it's possessiveness, and the mood is very unstable. Then I read this book, which inspired me and benefited me a lot. It's well written and clean, and it's worth reflecting on. It's a very good book!
This book is a combination of multiple protagonists and multiple stories, telling from different angles and different positions that women must give themselves a sense of security and cannot take it from others. After reading this book, I really feel that life is impermanent and full of various situations. If you want to be happy, you must be strong and good for yourself. In the end, any relationship is just an acquaintance, and you can carefully understand it according to your destiny.
A very interesting book, composed of several stories, mainly about love and marriage from a female perspective. Most of the girls in the story have been hurt, but they have grown up tenaciously. I can see my own shadow in them more or less, so reading is a dialogue with myself.
After reading it, I really felt comfortable. People still need to learn to cherish themselves and improve their abilities. Money is more important. If you have money, no matter how hard your life is, it will be easier.
That's it. It's not enough. I still want to watch it (๑•́ωก̀๑)
Women should boldly be themselves. Don't try to find a sense of security in others or among relatives and friends. Rely on yourself and live for yourself. Women should have their own ideas and improve themselves to gain the greatest sense of security.
I have been in a bad mood for the past two days due to emotional matters. I don't want to find anyone to talk to, and I feel boring. I was surprised to see this book. After reading it, I figured out many things. Thank you to the author for writing such a good book! Benefited a lot! ! !
I like the books you wrote and feel comfortable reading them.
I haven't been able to calm down and read lately, but I read this book seriously, and my impatience has been relieved a lot.
In the early stage, it really made people feel indifferent and despairing. Later, the more I read, the warmer I felt.
Very good, I didn't skip any of them