Year of Innocence

I read another book by the author and came here to pursue it! I read it in one sitting. Among the leisure books I have read in recent years, it is rare to find a well-written and almost realistic work! Life is a piece of cake, don't be persistent! Use your own standards to ask those close to you to change! Change yourself and influence others! Moisturizes things silently! Easier said than done! Let's encourage each other!

This is one of my favorite novels, a youth novel. It starts from the heroine's time in college, until she finds a job after marriage, studies abroad, problems in her family, problems at work, her relationship with her parents, her relationship with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and her relationship with her husband. In the end, the two of them just make do with each other. The ending is very good and very practical. It has the best interpretation of the best best friend and the best partner in life. In fact, this novel tells everyone that love does not play a decisive role in marriage. There are also various relationships that appear in marriage, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, money relationships, husband-wife relationships, and education issues between children. Especially when the children are young and have no one to take care of their work, and they are under great pressure. In this novel, a postdoctoral fellow, a master's student, and an overseas Chinese are in the same situation. He tells everyone that marriage is a compromise.

This book really talks about the problems that will arise after marriage. Whether it is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the relationship between husband and wife, or the relationship between yourself and your parents, these relationships need to be managed. Fan is qualified as a father, and he is also qualified as a son, but he is not a good husband. Especially when dealing with the relationship between Zhuo and his mother, I once thought that Zhuo would suffer from postpartum depression. Moreover, Fan believed that he was compromising with Zhuo by not letting his mother get involved in his small family. This was terrible. Zhuo had fallen out with his parents because of him, but he still believed that Zhuo was an outsider to a certain extent. It was very sad, but very realistic and in line with the current situation.

It is a very real book. Married women have read Resonance, and unmarried girls can get vaccinated in advance. Many stories only describe the beauty of young love and then stop abruptly, because life after marriage is like drinking water and knowing whether it is warm or cold. There is no need to envy others. Life is always a mess. Manage yourself well and live in the present.

Life is not perfect. Instead of forcing external factors, it is better to change the internal factors. Love is different, but marriage is mostly the same. Marriage requires balance, and balance requires wisdom... "Wisdom is the first, so get wisdom, use everything you have to get wisdom; hold high wisdom, and it will elevate you; embrace wisdom, and it will make you dignified..."

This book is very resonant, and I read it in one sitting. It reflects the real-life chaos of middle-aged couples falling in love and killing each other. It made me see all the problems in my own marriage again, and I felt the same way.

Followed from another book. Marriage is nothing but a piece of cake. If you can't compromise, you have to break up. Fan Yi is the epitome of most men. Parents are more important than wives, and the feelings of outsiders are also more important than wives. Zhuo Qingqing's forbearance is also a compromise of a married woman. I like rice's narrative style.

It is very realistic that couples from good native families, well-matched, good-looking, well-educated, and with a certain relationship foundation lead their lives in such a piecemeal way. The heroine has a mysophobia, pursues perfection, tolerates a lack of communication, and either explodes or is destroyed. The male protagonist, a arrogant straight man from science and engineering, hopes that the female protagonist and her parents-in-law can live together for a long time and live in harmony, which is something that most families cannot achieve. Living close makes it easier to take care of them, but never under the same roof. No matter how old a couple is, the necessary sense of ritual is indispensable. Marriage management is a course that requires continuous practice.

It's so beautiful, real and depressing. In the first half of the relationship, I really yearned for a lover with stable emotions, peaceful temperament and outstanding abilities. But looking back, it turns out that trivial matters in life can make people crazy if they are not handled well. The most important thing is to never lose yourself and love yourself. I hope I can always put myself first and love myself.

This is the second novel by the author Chai, and it is a very good work. It is a very realistic novel that deals with various relationships during study, love, employment, marriage, and child-rearing. There is resonance, there is feeling...

It's depressing to watch, but I can't help it. The heroine is sensitive and sharp, and it makes others feel uncomfortable if she is trapped. I have a similar personality. After reading it, I want to remind myself to lower my expectations, love myself more, discover problems, ask questions, solve problems, don't complain in vain, and don't wait for others to take the initiative to guess your thoughts and express them to satisfy yourself.

Although the heroine's character does have flaws, she is clingy and always avoids problems. She is indeed emotional and lacks some life wisdom in dealing with people. But the conditions are also good. My parents and even my grandparents are from highly educated families. I am a beautiful and smart woman with good academic qualifications. I am even one of China's relatively early students studying in the United States, so she has a very high caliber. Such a girl can only keep company with her children, a job without any promotion, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the trivial chores of the family. Sexual desire is suppressed by work and life. In addition to the estrangement and the constant breakdown of feelings, there is no longer any warmth between the old husband and wife. There is only the role of a partner, and it is even impossible to talk. The good things in the past are no longer, freedom has become a precious treasure, and the body and soul are chained.

I just finished reading "The Year of Innocence" by Da Mi. The book has plain noodles in clear soup at the beginning, spicy and hot in the middle, and only a cup of American style is left at the end. The heroine Qingqing goes through the college entrance examination, enters university, has a crush on her senior brother, her first love, breakup, graduation, study abroad, and meets her senior brother Fan Yi who she has a crush on again. In a foreign country, lonely and helpless, Qingqing knew that she was Fan Yi's choice after weighing the pros and cons, but she still stayed with him, and got married in a hurry in the confusion of graduation. Marriage is not just the union of two people, but the collision and integration of two families of origin. The influence of the family of origin, such as personality traits, values, etc., Is constantly amplified and tested in marriage. The indifference and helplessness of her native family made Qingqing sensitive, fragile and unable to speak out in her adult marriage. When she met a stabbing husband who only cared about herself and her family, her marriage died. In the next few years, life seems to have entered a difficult mode. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, her parents' stubbornness and alienation, coupled with Qingqing's character flaws, her husband's inaction, unemployment, and PUA, have made her trapped in the whirlpool of life. Best friend Shen Yingzi said: The biggest lesson in life is to handle the relationship between people well. This is true at work and at home. Sure enough, women save women, and because of Shen Yingzi, Qingqing began to save herself: look down on, let go, lower expectations for each other, not be persistent, manage emotions, respect the living habits of her parents, invest in herself, care for her children, and slowly take the initiative. If we want to have a happy marriage, we need to understand ourselves first, understand the influence of our original family on ourselves, and work hard to grow. All things are according to their kind, and joys and sorrows are not the same. Instead of expecting, speak out, act, realize, and love yourself. Although the American style is bitter, it is refreshing and enlightening.

After listening to the novel and hearing that the heroine was pregnant, I started reading the novel. It was so depressing because it was too realistic. I seemed to see my husband, who was in heartache, crying, and unable to extricate himself from the sad emotions.

I like Rice's style. I couldn't wait to read it in one sitting, and couldn't bear to put it down halfway. It feels like Qingqing is too sober, too entangled and sensitive. Recognize the essence of life that is all over the place, still love life, and only by embracing life can you hope to gain happiness! Simple people are easy to be happy, great wisdom is like fools, and it is rare to be confused. It is actually a state [Learned]

I came here after reading another book by the author. Super exciting, finished in one go.

Three years after graduation, two relationships, and a skeptical attitude toward marriage. In life, my peers are starting to get married one after another, and I am still thinking about what marriage can bring to me. If a high-minded love like this in the book can turn out to be disgusting, then does marriage really make sense to me, who is mediocre and ordinary? Managing a relationship is the most complicated thing in the world.

I wrote an ordinary and trivial story. Life is like this, flowing slowly, with touching moments, distressed moments, and hateful moments, and finally compromises in the face of reality.

Chased from people in the alley

No one's life is like a piece of cake. If you have a responsibility in marriage, you should do it and cherish it. If you have any problems, don't argue with yourself too much. Everything is brighter when you step back. When you look back, it won't be a big deal. If you find the right person, you will be happier.

Seeing the heroine's mess after marriage, I couldn't help but sigh. It turns out that everyone is in the same "dilemma". The heroine's confusion and psychological thoughts at different stages are exactly the same as her own in the previous relationship. When she was young, she vowed to choose the latter between the person who loves me and the person I love. Now she firmly chooses the former, because the person who is loved is always happy.

Very good Is there any extra story? Although life is a mess, and both parties have their own problems, I still hope to see a clearer direction. Fan didn't do well enough, but at the same time he wasn't entirely the instigator. The pain and suffering in marriage are also borne by both people. I hope he can take the lead in making some changes, So I hope rice can add some extras...

The whole process felt depressing, sad, and sad! Life may not be happy, but it should also be a marriage entered into with happiness! If you are not optimistic about the person from the beginning, then just stay away. Don't let it go because you are older, and don't be depressed because of some unhappy people. Without communication, the marriage will become seemingly incompatible and strange people, so it is better to give up as soon as possible, let yourself go and let the other person go! Just my personal opinion, don't criticize if you don't like it

After reading it, I felt that marriage was so scary, scary, and totally scary. Judging from the full text, the wife is too responsible and dedicated, and she takes too much care and makes herself too tired. Sometimes it's not that two people don't want to communicate, but they just can't speak out. Choice before marriage is too important. Don't get married hastily. You need to be patient during the love period, but it's not even more scary after you get married. This book is sad but true. I feel that my wife's personality is somewhat similar to mine, and I might become like this in the future, so I should take this as a warning. Don't worry too much and be a hands-off shopkeeper. Close your eyes and live freely.

This book made me very upset, the female protagonist has many things to do. Contradiction. Another humorous book, people don't care about each other so much and love each other a lot. The heroine of this book wants to go crazy when she sees people

The writing is so real. Whose life is not a piece of cake, who can escape the trivialities of life, be it a man or a woman, be good to yourself, be good to your parents, be good to your children, move forward, continue if you can, only you know whether your marriage is good or not.

It's so true. Many people's marriages are like a piece of cake, and they need to constantly adjust their mentality to continue living. .

I still like Fan Yi when I was in college. From acquaintance to falling in love and then to married life, it is very close to real life. The life in the beginning was beautiful and happy. As time went by, I had children and lived with my parents. She became a housewife by myself. All kinds of problems gradually appeared, from falling in love to hating each other. Life was a mess, but for the sake of the children, I could only endure it and make do.

This is reality! The perfect novel-style love is always just a novel

Life is a mess, and no matter how innocent love is, it will become embarrassing as we age. Life! Very depressing, very tired, very bitter...