The Years of Innocence

I read another book by the author and came here to pursue it! I read it in one sitting. Among the leisure books I have read in recent years, it is rare to find a well-written and almost realistic work! Life is a piece of cake, don't be persistent! Use your own standards to ask those close to you to change! Change yourself and influence others! Moisturizes things silently! Easier said than done! Let's encourage each other!

This is one of my favorite novels, a youth novel. It starts from the heroine's time in college, until she finds a job after marriage, studies abroad, problems in her family, problems at work, her relationship with her parents, her relationship with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and her relationship with her husband. In the end, the two of them just make do with each other. The ending is very good and very practical. It has the best interpretation of the best best friend and the best partner in life. In fact, this novel tells everyone that love does not play a decisive role in marriage. There are also various relationships that appear in marriage, such as the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, money relationships, husband-wife relationships, and education issues between children. Especially when the children are young and have no one to take care of their work, and they are under great pressure. In this novel, a postdoctoral fellow, a master's student, and an overseas Chinese are in the same situation. He tells everyone that marriage is a compromise.

It is a very real book. Married women have read Resonance, and unmarried girls can get vaccinated in advance. Many stories only describe the beauty of young love and then stop abruptly, because life after marriage is like drinking water and knowing whether it is warm or cold. There is no need to envy others. Life is always a mess. Manage yourself well and live in the present.

This book really talks about the problems that will arise after marriage. Whether it is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the relationship between husband and wife, or the relationship between yourself and your parents, these relationships need to be managed. Fan is qualified as a father, and he is also qualified as a son, but he is not a good husband. Especially when dealing with the relationship between Zhuo and his mother, I once thought that Zhuo would suffer from postpartum depression. Moreover, Fan believed that he was compromising with Zhuo by not letting his mother get involved in his small family. This was terrible. Zhuo had fallen out with his parents because of him, but he still believed that Zhuo was an outsider to a certain extent. It was very sad, but very realistic and in line with the current situation.

Life is not perfect. Instead of forcing external factors, it is better to change the internal factors. Love is different, but marriage is mostly the same. Marriage requires balance, and balance requires wisdom... "Wisdom is the first, so get wisdom, use everything you have to get wisdom; hold high wisdom, and it will elevate you; embrace wisdom, and it will make you dignified..."

This book is very resonant, and I read it in one sitting. It reflects the real-life chaos of middle-aged couples falling in love and killing each other. It made me see all the problems in my own marriage again, and I felt the same way.

Followed from another book. Marriage is nothing but a piece of cake. If you can't compromise, you have to break up. Fan Yi is the epitome of most men. Parents are more important than wives, and the feelings of outsiders are also more important than wives. Zhuo Qingqing's forbearance is also a compromise of a married woman. I like rice's narrative style.

Although the heroine's character does have flaws, she is clingy and always avoids problems. She is indeed emotional and lacks some life wisdom in dealing with people. But the conditions are also good. My parents and even my grandparents are from highly educated families. I am a beautiful and smart woman with good academic qualifications. I am even one of China's relatively early students studying in the United States, so she has a very high caliber. Such a girl can only keep company with her children, a job without any promotion, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the trivial chores of the family. Sexual desire is suppressed by work and life. In addition to the estrangement and the constant breakdown of feelings, there is no longer any warmth between the old husband and wife. There is only the role of a partner, and it is even impossible to talk. The good things in the past are no longer, freedom has become a precious treasure, and the body and soul are chained.

It is very realistic that couples from good native families, well-matched, good-looking, well-educated, and with a certain relationship foundation lead their lives in such a piecemeal way. The heroine has a mysophobia, pursues perfection, tolerates a lack of communication, and either explodes or is destroyed. The male protagonist, a arrogant straight man from science and engineering, hopes that the female protagonist and her parents-in-law can live together for a long time and live in harmony, which is something that most families cannot achieve. Living close makes it easier to take care of them, but never under the same roof. No matter how old a couple is, the necessary sense of ritual is indispensable. Marriage management is a course that requires continuous practice.

It's depressing to watch, but I can't help it. The heroine is sensitive and sharp, and it makes others feel uncomfortable if she is trapped. I have a similar personality. After reading it, I want to remind myself to lower my expectations, love myself more, discover problems, ask questions, solve problems, don't complain in vain, and don't wait for others to take the initiative to guess your thoughts and express them to satisfy yourself.