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Thank you woo woo, you made me understand a lot I only learned about attachment style after we broke up. I regretted it and it was a pity that I was recommended to read this book. I also recommended him to read this book. I hope it will be helpful to both of us.

Nowadays, the divorce rate is generally increasing, and everyone is complaining that their significant other is not good enough, and various problems are everywhere in the relationship between the sexes. This book traces back to the source, and provides a very thorough theoretical interpretation of how to get along in many relationships and why bad emotions occur. After reading it, my outlook on love changed directly. I realized that before, my partner and I had been communicating ineffectively and using wrong perceptions to fall in love. Now inspired by this book, I decided to pursue her again.

Conflicts are mainly divided into two types: 1. Basic livelihood type, 2. Intimacy-oriented type. We must clearly understand and correctly express our needs in conflicts. Adopt the principles of secure attachment Have time to accompany each other Don't interfere too much with the other party Give each other support and encouragement communicate effectively No scheming, no tricks Make your partner's happiness your own responsibility Be honest in your heart, be positive and sincere in your interactions Discuss matters as they are When conflicts arise, do not generalize Nip it in the bud - comfort the other person before their negative emotions explode.

The author divides attachment tendencies into three categories: Anxious type: They are often obsessed with intimate relationships and often doubt whether their partners can repay the same love as themselves. Avoidant: They equate intimacy with a loss of independence and often try to weaken intimacy. Secure: They like intimacy and tend to be warm and loving. Learning the three types of relationships and understanding the attachment tendencies of ourselves and our partners can help us discover true love and better maintain and rebuild relationships.

With each conflict, people with an anxious attachment style lose some status: Whenever there is a conflict with an avoidant partner, anxious people are often overwhelmed by negative emotions due to strong insecurities and anxiety. Whenever you feel hurt, you will have some extreme words, thoughts and behaviors, and even threaten to break up. However, after this series of defensive behaviors, once they calm down, they will be very regretful, their minds will be filled with the good times they spent with the other person, and then they will beg the other person for reconciliation.

This is a love psychology book that I am full of praise for. Through this book's interpretation of the relationship between the sexes, I know how to deal with emotional problems with my partner. Although I have experienced three failed relationships, I still don't know how to treat my current girlfriend correctly and how to treat our relationship? I accidentally discovered this book. The book classifies people in love into three types: safe, avoidant, and anxious. I think I should be a typical anxious type. I almost broke up with my girlfriend a while ago. After reading this book, I feel that our relationship can be saved.

This is a guide book to improve the quality of love. The author analyzes the emotional and thinking characteristics of men and women from a psychological perspective, and guides us on how to improve each other's expectations in our daily love life. We need to know that everyone's perception of emotions is different. For example, people with a secure attachment style enjoy intimacy very much and are usually warm and loving; people with an anxious attachment style crave intimacy very much and are often fully committed to the relationship, but are very worried about whether their partner loves them equally; and people with an avoidant attachment style equate intimacy with a loss of independence, and they always try to reduce intimacy as much as possible. We need to appease our partner based on his or her characteristics.

It's very useful, and I want to read it. It is full of knowledge without losing the charm of language. I gained a lot and solved a long-hidden problem in my heart. Before watching it, I always thought about why my previous relationships failed. Now that I have finished reading it, I understand that before, an anxious boy fell in love with an avoidant girl, and that boy foolishly thought that love is such a hysterical pain. Now that the boy has grown up and has become a safe type, I look back at the road I have traveled and sigh, if I had encountered this book earlier, maybe I would not be alone in feeling inferior, thinking and denying myself countless times.

This book provides a thorough analysis of the relationship between the sexes. It covers the classification of attachment styles, causes and solutions. It is especially worth reading for people with insecure attachment styles.

It allowed me to get out of the painful breakup period in 3 days, get to know myself, the other person, and understand more potential meanings.

It allowed me to interpret the interpersonal relationships I experienced from a new dimension, find out the problems in getting along with others, and realize why I have never had the courage to enter an intimate relationship. I also understood my natural reactions at various times. I learned to understand myself, learn new ways of thinking, and constantly practice and apply them to replace non-safe reactions.

Recently, I feel that I have lost control of my emotions because of some things, and after leaving those people and environments that make me feel out of control, I feel a little crazy. Thanks to AI for recommending this book. Through this book, I can better understand my own personality flaws and understand the direction of improvement. Although I don't necessarily fit a certain type of description, the diversity of human thinking makes me not averse to it. No one is carved from the same mold, and it is better to have no books than to believe in books. I have benefited a lot from the psychological description, typical case analysis and problem solving methods in the book. I know very well that only by accepting yourself can you change yourself. No matter which type you form, it is your childhood self for a better survival. There is no need to blame yourself. It is never too late to recognize and change it now. It is true that being an unconscious chaotic type will be the source of a lot of troubles, but always believe that you are worthy of being loved, and try to be less avoidant and alienated, less duplicitous, and less subjective. Also try to be more emotionally responsive and intimate, to be less aggressive and defensive in communication, to be more considerate of the other person's happiness, to be more dependent and honest, even if it's just a little more hugging. Try to be a better version of yourself, your partner, your loved one, your friend. The process of growth is bound to be accompanied by pain, but no matter what, you must always love yourself.

It's so real, it feels like surveillance is installed in my home. It's very useful, although I only read it once and didn't understand it very well. But it has left a vague but correct direction in my subconscious. Prepare for the second brush, the third brush... Avoidance plus anxiety. Inadequate ability and sensitive heart. I have worked really hard to survive without major problems, thank God.

The analysis of attachment styles in the book reminded me of the experiences of some of my friends, which really resonated with me. Moreover, the suggestions and cases in the book are very practical, and the writing style is also very smooth, making it easy to read. I think it is not only suitable for single people, but also for people who are already in a relationship or marriage. Recommended to everyone!

Attachment between adults can be divided into different types. Here, attachment tendencies are divided into three types. The first is the anxious type, which is often addicted to close relationships and cannot extricate itself. The second is the avoidant type, which equates close relationships with the loss of independence. The third is the secure type, which likes intimacy and is often warm and loving. This can help us discover true love, understand our own and our partner's romantic tendencies, and smoothen our relationships. Navigating strong and fulfilling relationships.

Thank you for letting me understand my own personality and the personality of my partner. You have made me understand that I don't need to change my personality, I just need to change the way I do things.

Although I don't quite understand it, I think it makes sense. I hope I can read more and use the same tactics as answering questions, and then I can handle intimate relationships as well as if I really have a sense of the problem. I also hope that I can really find a soul mate!

It describes the attachment styles of adults very objectively, and gives many easy-to-understand examples. After reading this book, I feel that I have a deeper understanding of myself, and a better understanding of what I need, and how to avoid some conflicts in my future life.

I came to seek comfort, but you advised me to break up [face covering]

Thank you, thank you very much, it's a pity it's a bit late

The Importance of Effective Communication - Thoughts after reading "The Reconstruction of Relationships" Why is it so difficult for an avoidantly attached person to have a long-term relationship with an anxiously attached person? Because people with avoidant attachment value their own space more, while people with anxious attachment want to be with their partner all the time. The needs of the two are not equal. In fact, the best advice is to break up, but if both parties have feelings and righteousness, there is room for negotiation. The premise is to express your needs directly without hurting the other party. This is effective communication. The corresponding ineffective communication is to think that the other party does not care about you, and then respond with an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. Love is never about life and death, but about supporting each other and becoming better together. It can be said that compromise is very important. If you truly love someone, you must be prepared to be willing to be bound by the person you love at all times.

The anxious type really needs to stay away from the avoidant type, otherwise they will become more and more insecure, just like the PUA that is very popular on the Internet, and they will doubt themselves more and more. When you encounter a safe type, you will become more self-consistent and confident, gradually become less anxious and self-doubt, feel more secure, and feel more worthy.

This book is very good and worth learning by everyone

A good emotional book that helped me see clearly the emotional conflicts between the sexes and get out of the haze after a breakup.

After reading it, I realized that there were problems with my concepts and that I had gone into misunderstandings. I also understood where many of the problems lie. I am a safe person, but I have gradually become anxious. There is no right or wrong, they are all instinctive reactions, but they are not aware of their respective problems and reasons.

It is a book of answers that promotes the healthy development of gender relations. It is very suitable for people like me who have just got married and have many conflicts. It is a good book that pulled me out of the quagmire. I sincerely recommend it.

A very useful psychological book that allows us to better understand intimate relationships.

The anxious type regrets not watching it sooner (being avoided and off the cliff [crying])

This book is full of useful information and is really helpful for emotional relationships. In particular, the distinction between the three attachment styles can help you find the most suitable partner and understand your own attachment style. There is also a lot of knowledge that can be used in maintaining relationships. It has a lot of benefits and is worth recommending [top post]

This book made me see myself more clearly. Most of the time I am a safe type, but occasionally I tend to be an anxious type. It also gave me a clearer idea of ​​how to communicate with close people in the future, which was a huge benefit!