Reconciliation with Family of Origin

If a parent can respect themselves and their children from the day their children are born, there is no need to teach their children to respect, and the children will take themselves and others seriously. Children and parents should get along in an environment of empathy and companionship. Children will eventually be separated from their parents and have their own lives. Many parents are using their own experiences to tie up their children. If they don't study hard, they will lose at the starting line. Only good children are obedient and obedient... These imposed consciousnesses will only have counterproductive effects when children gradually grow up and form self-awareness. Parents have more responsibilities to guide their children to establish correct concepts, tolerate their children's nature, respect their children's emotions, and let their children gradually form self-awareness and move towards independence. Parents do not need their children to be "special" or to represent their own moral values ​​like a brand.

This book is really good. Before reading this book, I never understood why I had been so depressed and felt so confused and empty in life. Now I understand, I will release the real subject, throw away the objects that exist to protect my mother and satisfy her desires and expectations. From today on, I will not be her mother and live for myself.

The impact of the original family on an individual cannot be said to be lifelong, but to a certain extent, it has a very large impact on a person's life. Every individual longs for the love and protection of their parents when they are young, but they may not get the care they want due to the environment of the times, their parents' education level, their parents' emotions, etc. But it cannot be denied that any parent can not love their children! If there are, they are very few. Every parent wants to be a qualified parent the moment they have a child, and wants to make up for their children what they lacked when they were young. But the deeper the love, the greater the expectations. If the adult children do not meet their inner expectations, the psychological gap will be huge. As the saying goes, "With deep love comes great responsibility." This kind of love is a bit heavy for children. They cannot escape, but they also long to control their own lives, which is a conflict. This book allows us to face up to our childhood experiences, reconcile with our original family, let go of our obsessions, and let go of ourselves. Only by letting go can we allow our adult selves to slowly heal and understand our parents through constant life experiences, and at the same time allow our children to have as happy a childhood as possible.

Respect is the prerequisite for everything. Children are never the private property of their parents.

This book gave me so many feelings. I feel like I have found the answers to many of my psychological problems in a book like this. If you are someone who feels that no one can understand you in reality, I highly recommend this book. Everyone, what you read is not just words, but the truth about yourself and even our lives.

This book taught me that contempt is a weapon of the weak and a defense against some of one's own unwelcome emotions. Adults exert power over children more or less consciously, irresistibly, and subtly. This kind of power exertion is the root of all contempt and discrimination. This kind of behavior is tolerated by society, except of course for killing children or severely abusing children. How an adult treats a child's mind is entirely his own business. The children are his property, just as the people in a despotic country belong to the government. If we are not aware of the pain of children, then it will become the norm in human society for adults to dominate children. No one will pay attention to and take this matter seriously. This matter will be completely regarded as indifferent because they are "just children."

I read a lot of unique ideas about children. The reason why children choose to be obedient and well-behaved is partly because they are afraid of losing the love of their parents. Understanding itself is impossible, but we can choose to respect and promote the recognition of compromise.

How to resolve the relationship and bond between an individual and his family of origin? The book provides a way to understand and deal with this relationship. Family of origin refers to the family environment and intimate relationships a person experiences while growing up. It has a profound impact on an individual's development and psychological state. The goal of the book is to help readers get rid of possible negative influences in their original families, liberate their own minds, and achieve personal growth and self-realization. It encourages individuals to face past trauma and pain and achieve reconciliation through understanding, acceptance and forgiveness.

The book is very beautiful. What Alice has spent her whole life fighting for, calling for, and writing about the problems of her family of origin is exactly the opposite of letting go, forgiveness, forgiveness, and reconciliation. What she emphasizes is to truly see her childhood, her true experiences, and her true emotions. After seeing it, whether she chooses to reconcile or not is a personal decision. But facing your own emotions and experiences is the prerequisite for everything. Reading her book answered many of my secret inner confusions.

Success does not necessarily mean happiness. If we do not have insight into the impact of our growing environment on ourselves, we will not be able to give ourselves an explanation when we have enough food and clothing, a worry-free future, and still feel depressed and anxious; Alice Miller tells us that having a dialogue with your original family and understanding yourself is the most important thing to truly understand yourself. The First Step to Happiness, this book analyzes the various personality disorders that adults face and the problems they may encounter in their birth environment through negative emotions such as narcissism and belittling and contempt. This book quotes authoritative literature and supplements it with a lot of practical experience. It can be said to be a rare healing manual.

Let's pay attention to children and respect them even if we don't understand their behavior!

This book taught me that contempt is a weapon of the weak and a defense against some of one's own unwelcome emotions. Adults exert power over children more or less consciously, irresistibly, and subtly. This kind of power exertion is the root of all contempt and discrimination. This kind of behavior is tolerated by society, except of course for killing children or severely abusing children. How an adult treats a child's mind is entirely his own business. The children are his property, just as the people in a despotic country belong to the government. If we are not aware of the pain of children, then it will become the norm in human society for adults to dominate children. No one will pay attention to and take this matter seriously. This matter will be completely regarded as indifferent because they are "just children."

It is more difficult to read than the time-travel novels I was addicted to before, and it is also more resistant to chewing and rumination, and more nutritious.

This book is very helpful to me! See clearly the uneasiness of childhood and hope to come out of the shadows.

While reading and writing summaries and diaries, it felt like a psychological consultation.

Pay attention to children's character development and respect children

This book truly reveals the profound impact of family of origin on people, which resonates with me. The author's writing style is sharp and fluent, and he uses simple language to explain complex issues. The cases and perspectives in the book were thought-provoking and made me understand the importance of reconciliation with my family of origin. Recommended to everyone who wants to understand themselves better!

Very good, the original family is enough to influence one person, or even several generations

Very cool, very important to see

A great book, I felt very enlightened after reading it [Love]

There are many sentences worth pondering.

Very profound and clearly explained

I learned a lot of useful learning methods in this book