Emotional Blackmail

The people closest to you know best where your Achilles heel is and are the most lethal. Emotional blackmailers are often more powerful. Because they are afraid of being hurt, they will use your fear and responsibility to control you to ensure that they will not be hurt. The scary thing is that the pattern of emotional blackmail is hereditary! If your parents adopted this pattern and your marriage failed, and you lived with the emotional blackmailer for a long time, there is a high chance that you will treat your life partner this way too, unless you begin to realize the problem and are willing to change it.

There are some conversation and coping skills that are very practical and worth learning from. My insights: We are ourselves first, and then other characters. In life, we should not harm others, but also protect ourselves.

Sometimes those who are closest to us and know us very well actually hurt us more deeply. They know where we are most vulnerable, and they themselves are a weakness in us because we care so much about their feelings for us, which gives them a great opportunity to hurt us. They persecute us emotionally, making us think that we are worthless and unworthy of love, but this is actually very wrong. We must remember how precious we are.

This is a book about relationships and emotional manipulation. Through rhetorical devices such as metaphor and parallelism, the author reveals the nature and impact of emotional blackmail. This book explores the motivations, patterns, and consequences of emotional blackmail, helping readers recognize and cope with this unhealthy relationship. Through cases and analysis, the author allows readers to understand the various manifestations of emotional blackmail, and provides some coping strategies and psychological suggestions. Readers can deepen their understanding of interpersonal relationships during the reading process, and at the same time, they can also think about their own attitudes and boundaries in emotional interactions.

The people we care about the most, have the strongest blood connections with, and interact with the most frequently are the most lethal to us. This is because we know each other intimately and understand how we can exploit each other's psychological and emotional vulnerabilities to achieve our goals, even if it is not intentional. This leads to the basic form of many relationship nightmares – emotional blackmail. The blackmailer preys on the victim's sense of fear, responsibility, and guilt, and both parties are trapped in a vicious cycle. Forward provides a comprehensive and in-depth analysis of the root causes of emotional blackmail and summarizes the types of blackmailers and victims.

Emotional blackmail is equivalent to emotional blackmail. This is undoubtedly a major blow to a person who does not know how to deal with relationships. Moreover, if the blackmailed person does not understand the fog and understand the relationship, he will repeat it in vain in the fog. Only by awakening his own self-questioning mode, just like reading a book, analyzing layer by layer and being good at thinking and actively searching, can he clearly see the relationship between himself and the blackmailer.

He wrote about the existence, causes, and solutions of emotional blackmail. It also lists many cases to enrich the content and facilitate understanding. Emotional blackmail is more or less likely to be encountered in life. It has certain practical significance and is written in human language. It is not difficult to read. I think it is good.

This book gave me the courage to face emotional blackmail. Undoubtedly, this book is a good book. I hope its content can bring more readers a different perspective on the world and awaken people's inner strength. [Praise]

The beginning and end of this book are better written. The beginning is the cause of the problem and the end is the solution. The middle part has more points and the explanation is relatively shallow. It basically just touches the surface. There are too many examples. It will be better to skip reading. Generally speaking, this book is pretty good at breaking down the understanding of emotional blackmail. It has solved many of my past knots. It has also given me more thinking directions and ways to deal with emotional blackmail. It is worth reading. After all, emotional blackmail is too common, and there are many skills to overcome.

Like Liz's husband mentioned in the book, he is a typical blackmailer, using Liz's sense of responsibility and guilt to achieve his own goals. I really hate this kind of person. However, we can also learn from these cases how to stand firm and not be swayed by other people's emotional blackmail. This book is really helpful and I think every family should read it.

Made me realize what emotional blackmail is. At that time, I thought this book was all about blackmail, but it was not. It taught you how to identify blackmail. Emotional blackmail often occurs from close people around us. They may intentionally or unintentionally cause us to be unable to become our complete selves. …There's still a lot of things I haven't finished saying, but I did learn something. I'm going to start reading the next book. Come on!

We all have some confusion about emotions. This book can help you figure it out. This is a book about relationships and emotional manipulation. Through rhetorical devices such as metaphor and parallelism, the author reveals the nature and impact of emotional blackmail. This book explores the motivations, patterns, and consequences of emotional blackmail, helping readers recognize and cope with this unhealthy relationship. Through cases and analysis, the author allows readers to understand the various manifestations of emotional blackmail, and provides some coping strategies and psychological suggestions. Readers can deepen their understanding of interpersonal relationships during the reading process, and at the same time, they can also think about their own attitudes and boundaries in emotional interactions.

I read this book with doubts. The whole book is divided into two parts. In the first part, the author presents consulting cases from the perspective of a counselor and analyzes the relationship between emotional blackmail in intimate relationships. The relationship levels include (family, workplace, lovers, marriage). In the second part, the author gives methods and cases on how to deal with emotional blackmail. It is a psychological book that combines theory with practice. I really like the theory of "self-integrity" put forward in the author's book. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with being arrogant. You need to have a complete core to ensure that you are not incited by the outside world. Even if you seem as cold as ice and motionless, it is just your courage and determination that push you to become a more complete self first, and you can't be a blackmailer or perpetrator.

Years of confusion were finally answered after reading this book. It turns out that this is emotional blackmail! Awesome this book

The first part, the case, the second part, the ideas and speech techniques, and the methods. After a while, I feel very good.

After reading this book, I feel that the fog deep in my heart has become much brighter. In the end, I also learned many practical and practical adjustment methods. I will often come back to review this reference book. Yes, I have not fully learned it yet. I will treat it as a reference book and take it out from time to time to review and consolidate the methods and knowledge proposed in the book. The so-called psychological counselor actually uses the so-called authority to persuade one of the parties to give up their own needs, make concessions to the authority, and cooperate with the other party. Of course, this does not mean all psychological counselors. I believe that if a suitable psychological counselor is not found, there will be a large number of psychological counselors in the industry who are like this. Sometimes it's not that I don't want to find a psychological counselor, but I'm afraid of finding a counselor who is not very professional and lacks experience. Nowadays, the psychological counseling industry is a mixed bag. As long as you learn some psychological knowledge and get a certificate, you can say that you are a psychological counselor. The cost of finding authoritative experts is too high and I really can't afford it.

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The unique thing about this book is that it gives many methods and plans that can be implemented. There are specific steps for each specific case, from psychological to physiological to measures. Very helpful!

It truly describes the facts and is a summary that I have never encountered before. It is worth reading!

Good-looking and useful. There are many unconscious pressures in life. It is suitable for those with controlling personalities and those who like to help others without thinking.