Devil's Pick-Up Theory: Become Friends with Strangers Instantly

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Have you ever encountered such a situation: you saw a beautiful woman on the street and wanted to strike up a conversation with her, but you didn't know what to say, or you were rejected after saying a few words? Do you feel that you have no charm, no confidence, no skills, and can't attract the attention of the opposite sex? If your answer is yes, then you may need "The Study of Picking Up with Devils". There are many examples in this book for you to learn from. It is better to practice it a hundred times in your mind than to experiment it once. It is more worth reading.

Picking up a conversation is a quick and effective way to establish friendly relationships with strangers. If you want to become a pick-up expert, you must first get rid of old ideas, and then have a sunny and confident mentality. Picking up a conversation is a very comprehensive communication knowledge, and the advice this book gives us is very practical. For example, seize the first 90 seconds, find mutual win-win points, and quickly build mutual trust. This is a conversational skill when facing customers in the workplace. I feel it is very useful, especially the suggestion of being the first to get the first impression. The first impression is indeed very important. I recommend everyone to take a look and become a master of interpersonal communication as soon as possible.

Picking up a conversation is a quick and effective way to establish friendly relationships with strangers. If you want to become a pick-up expert, you must first get rid of old ideas, and then have a sunny and confident mentality. Picking up a conversation is a very comprehensive communication knowledge, and the advice this book gives us is very practical. For example, seize the first 90 seconds, find mutual win-win points, and quickly build mutual trust. This is a conversational skill when facing customers in the workplace. I feel it is very useful, especially the suggestion of being the first to get the first impression. The first impression is indeed very important. I recommend everyone to take a look and become a master of interpersonal communication as soon as possible.

Picking up a conversation is a skill that actually requires you to have extremely high social skills and self-confidence. Of course, I want to stress that devilish pick-up techniques or any approach based on deceiving, manipulating, or going against another's will is not encouraged. Building healthy, reciprocal and respectful relationships is the more valuable and sustainable way to do it. When approaching someone, stay confident and authentic. Showing genuine interest and attitude is necessary. Also, understand the etiquette and codes of conduct in social situations, respect the personal space and boundaries of others, establish a reciprocal and balanced relationship, and respect each other's needs and boundaries. Don't try to force or trick others into making decisions they don't want to make. These are the essence of picking up a conversation.

Chatting up to make friends is similar to talking up to sell products. One is to sell oneself, and the other is to use oneself as an introduction to sell products. After reading it and combining it with my job hunting experience in the past few days, I was filled with emotions. I'm wondering if what I didn't say is the key factor. For example, the hardware conditions based on innate genes and the software conditions of the family. Of course, I admit that I have my own grievances in saying this. There is nothing we can do about it, after all, life does not wait. Under the same level of software, the success rate of good looks will be much better than those of ordinary or slightly ugly people, whether in chatting or selling. Under the same hardware level, if the family is well-off, whether seeking a mate or a job, life and work will be more troublesome than those of ordinary or slightly inferior people. To put it into perspective, it's strange that it's boring. It's just that I feel unwilling and why. If the hardware is good, I feel that the software can't compare with me. If the software is good, I feel that the hardware can't compare with me. But me, my software and hardware are not good at all, I don't rely on both sides, I don't care about the five, I go back and forth to maintain my fragile self-esteem, I look pitiful, ridiculous, sad and annoying. But this is also the purpose of reading this book. I have to make up for my innate shortcomings by learning, practicing, and working hard, just to have a good ecological niche, so as not to be in a situation where I can't move all the time. When it comes to striking up conversations, selling, courting, and applying for jobs, it is always easier for people with good nature to get on the right track, while those with poor nature always have to pay more to make up for their shortcomings. Even so, they still can't escape the prejudices in people's hearts. Sad? Maybe a little, but I feel more like frustration and helplessness. If you can't become an immortal, it's not bad to be a demon in the mountains and forests. Only by mixing in your own ecological niche can you achieve upward mobility.

Pick up skills 1. Ask for advice (ask for advice) and strike up a conversation Some people like to be teachers and always like to guide, educate others, or show off themselves. For example, you could ask an avid gardener: "I want to replace the annual plants in my garden with perennials. What would you recommend?" 2. Interest-based chatting method Almost everyone is interested in benefits, and ways to save money and make money can easily arouse customers' interest, so salespeople can state the benefits they can bring to customers from the beginning, such as: "Manager Zhang, I'm here to tell you a way to save half of your company's electricity bill." 3. Introduction to approach method Formula: identify yourself + ask about customer needs + make introductions based on customer needs In the showroom, a pair of male and female customers walked into the car showroom. Salesperson: "Hello, I am the person in charge of car sales in this area ××, what do you two need?" Customer: "I want to know about this year's latest products." 4. Referral approach method This is a roundabout tactic, telling the client that it is a third party (the client's relatives and friends) who wants us to come to him. Everyone has the mentality of "looking at the Buddha without looking at the monk's face", so most people are very polite to the salespersons introduced by their relatives and friends. For example: "Mr. He, your friend Mr. Zhang asked me to come to you. He thinks you may be interested in our printing machinery, because these products bring a lot of benefits and convenience to his company." 5. Praise for pick-up techniques Formula: Facts seen/heard + words of praise For example, we can say: "Mr. Wang, the hall of your house is really uniquely designed." "Manager Lin, I heard Mr. Zhang from Huamei Garment Factory say that doing business with you is the most enjoyable experience. He praised you as an enthusiastic and cheerful person." "Congratulations, Mr. Li, I just read about you in the newspaper, and congratulate you on being selected as one of the top ten outstanding entrepreneurs." 6. Statement of purpose method When you ask for the other person's contact information, don't use a questioning tone, use a declarative tone. Instead of asking "Can I leave your phone number?", Say: "I'll take note of your contact information and call you when there are events in the future. I'll also call your friends so we can play together."

Picking up a conversation is a skill that actually requires you to have extremely high social skills and self-confidence. Of course, I want to stress that devilish pick-up techniques or any approach based on deceiving, manipulating, or going against another's will is not encouraged. Building healthy, reciprocal and respectful relationships is the more valuable and sustainable way to do it. When approaching someone, stay confident and authentic. Showing genuine interest and attitude is necessary. Also, understand the etiquette and codes of conduct in social situations, respect the personal space and boundaries of others, establish a reciprocal and balanced relationship, and respect each other's needs and boundaries. Don't try to force or trick others into making decisions they don't want to make. These are the essence of picking up a conversation.

Psychological experts point out that chatting up is a return to the original social way of people out of psychology and the inherent needs of life after people's social activities are over-networked, and should be viewed rationally. No matter men, women, old or young, they all have the need to strike up a conversation. Picking up a conversation is not limited to the first step of communication between men and women. The act of picking up a conversation itself is difficult to characterize as a good thing or a bad thing. If your purpose is very legitimate, then there is nothing wrong with using the pick-up method reasonably. Learning pick-up skills can help some people who are originally introverted and shy to build self-confidence, find shortcuts to success, and possibly get beautiful love. Why not?

It turns out that striking up a conversation can not only expand your social circle, but also enhance your personal charm. The techniques in the book are also very practical and are really helpful for introverts like me. Moreover, I think chatting up is also a positive attitude towards life, which can make us more confident in communicating with others. I am going to recommend this book to my friends so that everyone can benefit from it.

It's a very good book, but I still don't quite understand it.

This book can still teach people something, it is very useful

The second half is quite good. Generally speaking, the whole book has its own characteristics, and there are some special places that are worthy of others to ponder and learn.

The application of this book is very good!

It looks good but there are too many ads! Sometimes I feel boring

The explanations are very detailed and you can learn a lot, mainly through practice.

It feels very reasonable [laughing and crying] [learned]

Very comprehensive basic knowledge