A book that can defeat a scumbag, teaches you how to recognize a scumbag instantly, and provides a thorough analysis of love relationships from multiple perspectives such as psychology and economics. Douban love relationship guru Lin Jie's summary of 8 years of research and guidance on love practice for thousands of people.
This is a very powerful book: scientific information, a profound analysis of love relationships from multiple perspectives such as psychology and economics. It has strong operability and has guided thousands of netizens to successfully practice it offline. Help us see clearly the tricks of scumbags, defeat scumbags, and quit their poison.
Reader comments
It's a very good book, but I already understood the content in the book before I read it, because I have a lot of love experience and have come into contact with many different kinds of men. But after reading it, I became more convinced that some of my ideas and actions were correct.
I think this book is very good! It can make boys and girls, especially girls, reflect on their own behavior and learn to think from others' perspective, which will immediately make people enlightened.
It is a good love guide for young people. People should learn to stay rational, maintain themselves, and improve their own value in love instead of losing themselves in love. Love is not everything in life. People must first learn to love themselves and live their own lives well.
The biggest feeling from this book is that I can see the world through boys' eyes and the different concepts between individuals. It's quite interesting and can broaden my horizons. In addition, I would also like to send a message to all female friends: Never rely on your personality on a man. No one has the obligation to shoulder this important responsibility. When subject and object are reversed, ask yourself, are you really happy?
Most of it is reasonable, but maybe because the author is a male, some of the views are not very realistic. All in all, the author warns women not to rely too much on and expect from men, but to have their own lives and improve their attractiveness.
After thinking about it, I just reduced my sunk costs and let the other party increase their bets on me.
I am a novice in love, and I have also encountered blind spots in love. I have learned a lot of knowledge about love. Tik Tok, books, and consultation with friends are all useless. The comfort is ambiguous like chicken soup. I still blame her for the direction of the final summary, but I read this book and summary carefully. My heart is open and relieved. I think she is also a kind person. It is my behavior. I do not understand the way of getting along with each other in love, so that we can get along more harmoniously. If I study carefully, everyone is more kind. They are all the people who have smiled from the heart and loved deeply. This is a beautiful memory.
Love is a complicated course, and love is a game. I use the high and low stages to explain the love process, and then use psychology and human nature to explain and analyze. I have solved a lot of questions. I am not angry with her at all, but I still miss her a little. I used to feel that I have put in all the effort in this relationship regardless of money, time, energy, etc., But now I suddenly feel enlightened, no longer entangled, and I still need to calm down and read a book. Many thanks to the author.
Finally, I wish the readers who have finished reading this book can deal with the confusion of love problems happily, be happy every day, and youth is only once, and give thumbs up to you for being so awesome.
It's a very good book. The concept of love in it is basically very mature and suitable for most people to study and refer to. In addition, many problems in this book are solved from the perspective of girls. I feel that my emotions are a bit similar to those of the girls described above, but they are a bit naive and stubborn. [Laughing and crying]
I haven't finished it yet, but I learned a lot from this book.
So why do women tend to marry people with a certain amount of social wealth?
Because women have to have children and raise children after having a relationship with men, and rich men can provide security for women in raising children in the future, so the "female reality" actually requires the security and protection of later reproduction.
It is worth understanding the reality of women from this point of view.
Of course, men are also realistic and always want to leave excellent genetic genes for themselves. Women with good appearance, good figure, and good health generally have such excellent genes. So men love beautiful women.
The core of attraction is value. I won't go into detail about external values such as material wealth and status. In fact, internal value is difficult to describe clearly. It roughly includes making your life exciting, expanding your circle of friends, improving your personal temperament, increasing your personal connotation, etc.
I think this is what I realized after reading this book, and I think I agree with this point of view.
There are also many tips on how to manipulate men, but I really can't read this kind of knowledge book. I can only benefit from it partially, but I still recommend girls to read it!
To sum up, it is: indifferent, cold-hearted and cold-faced, bearish, and improve your rank. Don't surrender yourself all at once
It is actually written by a male author. It is easy to understand and has strong reference value.
The solutions to some of the problems raised by the author seem a bit flattering to boys. If it were written by a female author, she might not do that.
Many comments from female readers think that the author is pleading with them and that they may not use the methods suggested by the author to solve the problem.
Of course, netizens' comments cannot be used as a reference.
You need to practice and verify it yourself.
Not bad. If you like a boy, you have to rely on attraction. You also need to learn to deal with the breakup, close your circle of friends, and divert your attention.
I benefited a lot from watching it and woke up that feeling.
It is suitable for girls who are in love. Sometimes there is internal friction, awkwardness and incomprehension. Many of the reasons are that they do not understand the man. He loves you and likes you, so he is willing to do something, and you may have become accustomed to it. Cherish the person in front of you.
Hahahahahahaha... The author is very clever. From the title of the book, it seems that he wants to teach girls how to identify scumbags. In fact, he is teaching girls how to fall in love properly. He knew that if girls were asked to learn how to fall in love, they would resist, and they would think that they knew it well and did not need to learn it at all. Identifying bad guys will make girls interested. But as she read it, the girl discovered that it was teaching her how to fall in love. Girls don't resist anymore because they actually learn something. Hahahahahahahahaha I still admire the author of Guijing
It is very perspective and has great reference value, but there is no need to follow everything. There is no point in avoiding some things in advance. Just hurt it once. Next time, read the book and think about it, and then love yourself well. This book can help you better understand the relationship between lovers, how to take care of yourself, how to take care of others, and how to know your lover's thoughts. I have to say that the author has a lot of knowledge and experience.
It is worth reading for those who are new to love. This book mainly talks about how to desensitize yourself after a breakup. In love, both parties are in a high and low position. In the process of love, you must first be yourself, expand your friends, interests and hobbies, become a bright person, and attract the other person by improving your own value instead of trying to retain the other person. After a breakup, you must send the last message (meaning: do not disturb him, still love him), rebuild your life, and meet new people. As a girl in love, you should be independent and independent, and not afraid of losing, so that you can have better possessions. You should also cherish the good things of the other person and don't treat him unconditionally.
Not bad, refresh yourself
Maybe it is because my expectations are really high. Whether it is friendship, love, or family affection, if it is not sincere, the speed of change will be very fast.
This article tells a lot of truth based on the incidents of some consultants, which is great, but if you really get the facts, it is still a little difficult. There is a saying that is right, don't be easily incited by others!
2025.12.19 Recorded the 140th book I read. The total reading time was two and a half hours.
This book is actually very well written. Although many parts of the book are too sharp and make people sound like pua girls, from an objective point of view and a rational point of view, men still understand men, and many of their thoughts are the truest thoughts in their hearts💡
Generally speaking, after reading the whole book, you should not take men too seriously. Women should have their own lives and careers. Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, if you take each other too seriously, you will ignore your true inner feelings, and you will be very hurt if this continues.
Be calm first, then love others [love]
I, a newbie in love, learned a lot about love.
This book helped me understand some things about love. If I had read it earlier, I would have avoided the detours in love.
Very good, benefited a lot
I like the part about the theory of balance in the relationship between men and women in the book, just like what the book says, "Breaking up means you have nothing." This sentence is really heart-breaking, and it also made me understand that I should stay rational in love and not give blindly. Recommended to all sisters! 💪
I have been in love many times, but there are still so many things I don't understand. However, the author is a boy and basically says that it is not a man's problem to let women understand. In fact, I think half of the books are right and wrong. Girls should not rely too much on others, etc. The author should be a rational and delicate person [smile]
This book is very good, especially in the middle where it talks about high and low positions and how to slowly get back together. Great, highly recommended
No matter what kind of relationship you are in, there will always be one party who is strong and one party who is weak. Live your life and don't try to please anyone, and you will become the strong one. Come on💪
I saw it, I hope I can use it in the future🌚
It helped me know exactly how men think. It was very helpful.
Fortunately, hahaha, I understand a little bit! I feel relieved a lot, which is pretty good.
It's a very good book, but I already understood the content in the book before I read it, because I have a lot of love experience and have come into contact with many different kinds of men. But after reading it, I became more convinced that some of my ideas and actions were correct.
I think this book is very good! It can make boys and girls, especially girls, reflect on their own behavior and learn to think from others' perspective, which will immediately make people enlightened.
It is a good love guide for young people. People should learn to stay rational, maintain themselves, and improve their own value in love instead of losing themselves in love. Love is not everything in life. People must first learn to love themselves and live their own lives well.
The biggest feeling from this book is that I can see the world through boys' eyes and the different concepts between individuals. It's quite interesting and can broaden my horizons. In addition, I would also like to send a message to all female friends: Never rely on your personality on a man. No one has the obligation to shoulder this important responsibility. When subject and object are reversed, ask yourself, are you really happy?
Most of it is reasonable, but maybe because the author is a male, some of the views are not very realistic. All in all, the author warns women not to rely too much on and expect from men, but to have their own lives and improve their attractiveness. After thinking about it, I just reduced my sunk costs and let the other party increase their bets on me.
I am a novice in love, and I have also encountered blind spots in love. I have learned a lot of knowledge about love. Tik Tok, books, and consultation with friends are all useless. The comfort is ambiguous like chicken soup. I still blame her for the direction of the final summary, but I read this book and summary carefully. My heart is open and relieved. I think she is also a kind person. It is my behavior. I do not understand the way of getting along with each other in love, so that we can get along more harmoniously. If I study carefully, everyone is more kind. They are all the people who have smiled from the heart and loved deeply. This is a beautiful memory. Love is a complicated course, and love is a game. I use the high and low stages to explain the love process, and then use psychology and human nature to explain and analyze. I have solved a lot of questions. I am not angry with her at all, but I still miss her a little. I used to feel that I have put in all the effort in this relationship regardless of money, time, energy, etc., But now I suddenly feel enlightened, no longer entangled, and I still need to calm down and read a book. Many thanks to the author. Finally, I wish the readers who have finished reading this book can deal with the confusion of love problems happily, be happy every day, and youth is only once, and give thumbs up to you for being so awesome.
It's a very good book. The concept of love in it is basically very mature and suitable for most people to study and refer to. In addition, many problems in this book are solved from the perspective of girls. I feel that my emotions are a bit similar to those of the girls described above, but they are a bit naive and stubborn. [Laughing and crying]
I haven't finished it yet, but I learned a lot from this book. So why do women tend to marry people with a certain amount of social wealth? Because women have to have children and raise children after having a relationship with men, and rich men can provide security for women in raising children in the future, so the "female reality" actually requires the security and protection of later reproduction. It is worth understanding the reality of women from this point of view. Of course, men are also realistic and always want to leave excellent genetic genes for themselves. Women with good appearance, good figure, and good health generally have such excellent genes. So men love beautiful women. The core of attraction is value. I won't go into detail about external values such as material wealth and status. In fact, internal value is difficult to describe clearly. It roughly includes making your life exciting, expanding your circle of friends, improving your personal temperament, increasing your personal connotation, etc. I think this is what I realized after reading this book, and I think I agree with this point of view. There are also many tips on how to manipulate men, but I really can't read this kind of knowledge book. I can only benefit from it partially, but I still recommend girls to read it!
To sum up, it is: indifferent, cold-hearted and cold-faced, bearish, and improve your rank. Don't surrender yourself all at once
It is actually written by a male author. It is easy to understand and has strong reference value. The solutions to some of the problems raised by the author seem a bit flattering to boys. If it were written by a female author, she might not do that. Many comments from female readers think that the author is pleading with them and that they may not use the methods suggested by the author to solve the problem. Of course, netizens' comments cannot be used as a reference. You need to practice and verify it yourself.
Not bad. If you like a boy, you have to rely on attraction. You also need to learn to deal with the breakup, close your circle of friends, and divert your attention.
I benefited a lot from watching it and woke up that feeling.
It is suitable for girls who are in love. Sometimes there is internal friction, awkwardness and incomprehension. Many of the reasons are that they do not understand the man. He loves you and likes you, so he is willing to do something, and you may have become accustomed to it. Cherish the person in front of you.
Hahahahahahaha... The author is very clever. From the title of the book, it seems that he wants to teach girls how to identify scumbags. In fact, he is teaching girls how to fall in love properly. He knew that if girls were asked to learn how to fall in love, they would resist, and they would think that they knew it well and did not need to learn it at all. Identifying bad guys will make girls interested. But as she read it, the girl discovered that it was teaching her how to fall in love. Girls don't resist anymore because they actually learn something. Hahahahahahahahaha I still admire the author of Guijing
It is very perspective and has great reference value, but there is no need to follow everything. There is no point in avoiding some things in advance. Just hurt it once. Next time, read the book and think about it, and then love yourself well. This book can help you better understand the relationship between lovers, how to take care of yourself, how to take care of others, and how to know your lover's thoughts. I have to say that the author has a lot of knowledge and experience.
It is worth reading for those who are new to love. This book mainly talks about how to desensitize yourself after a breakup. In love, both parties are in a high and low position. In the process of love, you must first be yourself, expand your friends, interests and hobbies, become a bright person, and attract the other person by improving your own value instead of trying to retain the other person. After a breakup, you must send the last message (meaning: do not disturb him, still love him), rebuild your life, and meet new people. As a girl in love, you should be independent and independent, and not afraid of losing, so that you can have better possessions. You should also cherish the good things of the other person and don't treat him unconditionally.
Not bad, refresh yourself
Maybe it is because my expectations are really high. Whether it is friendship, love, or family affection, if it is not sincere, the speed of change will be very fast.
This article tells a lot of truth based on the incidents of some consultants, which is great, but if you really get the facts, it is still a little difficult. There is a saying that is right, don't be easily incited by others!
2025.12.19 Recorded the 140th book I read. The total reading time was two and a half hours. This book is actually very well written. Although many parts of the book are too sharp and make people sound like pua girls, from an objective point of view and a rational point of view, men still understand men, and many of their thoughts are the truest thoughts in their hearts💡 Generally speaking, after reading the whole book, you should not take men too seriously. Women should have their own lives and careers. Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, if you take each other too seriously, you will ignore your true inner feelings, and you will be very hurt if this continues. Be calm first, then love others [love]
I, a newbie in love, learned a lot about love.
This book helped me understand some things about love. If I had read it earlier, I would have avoided the detours in love.
Very good, benefited a lot
I like the part about the theory of balance in the relationship between men and women in the book, just like what the book says, "Breaking up means you have nothing." This sentence is really heart-breaking, and it also made me understand that I should stay rational in love and not give blindly. Recommended to all sisters! 💪
I have been in love many times, but there are still so many things I don't understand. However, the author is a boy and basically says that it is not a man's problem to let women understand. In fact, I think half of the books are right and wrong. Girls should not rely too much on others, etc. The author should be a rational and delicate person [smile]
This book is very good, especially in the middle where it talks about high and low positions and how to slowly get back together. Great, highly recommended
No matter what kind of relationship you are in, there will always be one party who is strong and one party who is weak. Live your life and don't try to please anyone, and you will become the strong one. Come on💪
I saw it, I hope I can use it in the future🌚
It helped me know exactly how men think. It was very helpful.
Fortunately, hahaha, I understand a little bit! I feel relieved a lot, which is pretty good.