Talk to Your Restless Self: What Is a Sense of Security and How to Get It

Very good. You give yourself a sense of security. Low self-esteem also has a good side that can keep you motivated. Of course, don't be too inferior. Too low self-esteem will cause anxiety. Secondly, don't compare with others. Compare with yourself. If today is better than yesterday, then it is good. This book is very inspiring for people who have no sense of security. The writing is very real.

Not bad, I discussed the issue of security in a more sincere manner, and came to the conclusion that people can't change the environment, they can only adjust their own hearts. Although it feels like a cliché, it is still enlightening because of the more detailed analysis. After reading this, I feel that for people with low power or who are easily disempowered by their own struggles to survive, entering an intimate relationship is more likely to lead to disempowerment than staying single, thereby strengthening insecurity.

The writing is simple, easy to understand, and well-founded. It is a true portrayal of the society we live in. After watching it, I'm still not satisfied

It turns out that insecurity manifests itself in all aspects, and many examples in the book are very common. After reading this book, I have a better understanding of myself and a clear idea of ​​the direction of improvement, but how to do it specifically remains to be explored.

It's very useful after reading this book. Just like what Uncle Jack said, when you are in difficulties, you have to break out of the thinking that limits you and look at your behavior from God's perspective. Only then can you better solve various problems in life.

This book contains a lot of good analysis of security, but very few write about how to obtain security. I wrote about what security is, why we are insecure, what kind of people are insecure, how to use security... Almost everything. But what is important is how to gain a sense of security and is seldom written. If you look at the catalog at a glance, it's hard to know where it says how to gain a sense of security. I'm not studying security. Why should I analyze security so thoroughly? I just want to know how to gain a sense of security. Is this difficult? And some of the content about security is repeated. Readers who will come later, if you want to read this book, I will summarize for you in advance how to gain a sense of security. 1. Maintain a good social environment. A social environment can reduce your feelings of loneliness, which in turn reduces your fear. 2. Maintain close relationships with loved ones. In life, most people can find a sense of security in their relatives. If your relationship with your relatives is very poor, you can try to improve your relationship with them. 3. Reduce fear of the opposite sex. Some people have heterophobia. They regard the opposite sex as a scourge in their daily lives, and they are afraid that they cannot avoid it. You can "gay" them and reduce their avoidance. 4. Reduce your inferiority complex. Don't just look at your shortcomings, but also see your strengths. (Details are in Chapter 3. If you are a person with low security and want to gain a sense of security, it is recommended to read it because this review is just a summary.) (This is what I summarized in Chapter 3. I read the subsequent chapters hastily, and I did not find any obvious explanation of how to obtain a sense of security. If you find it, you can tell me about it and leave a comment below. I will be grateful) Characteristics of people who lack security 1. Avoid social interaction. As long as others behave in ways that may hurt you or may harm you, even if there is even a trace of behavior, you may have a tendency to avoid social interaction in the future. 2. Very anxious. People with anxiety suffer from a lack of security. 3. Aggressive. Like a hedgehog. Always hurt others before you feel they will hurt you. (That's all, I won't write anymore, my writing hands are sore.)

Relatively easy to understand

Insecurity comes from within ourselves…

Insecurity will disappear only when the core is strong. Sometimes we hate and fear something because it is caused by excessive anxiety and insecurity. A sense of security is not provided by others but developed by oneself.

Spice of life

So it's really great, suddenly my eyes light up [laughing]

This book is very good! It talks about what a sense of security is in an easy-to-understand way, and also helps us understand whether we have a sense of security through some cases and tests. Just like Maslow said: "To a person who only has a hammer, everything he encounters looks like a nail." We must learn to understand ourselves in order to better control our lives! I think this book is a bit similar to "Human Weaknesses", both of which allow us to better understand ourselves and others.

Everyone needs a sense of security. The woman gains a sense of security: feels the man's love, Man: Praise from woman. Of course the most important thing is trust between both parties.

A very good book.

Very useful for me

This book is not bad