Human relationships are inherently neutral, neither good nor bad. If used properly, it will be a good interpersonal relationship; if used incorrectly or crookedly, it will be harmful but not beneficial.
Since ancient times, the Chinese have established a kind of human relationship that is rare in the world. The main difference between it and interpersonal relationships is that the former values "reasonable inequality" while the latter advocates "all people are created equal."
Regardless of interpersonal relationships or moral relationships, they all depend on good communication. Modern people like to talk very much, but most of them are not good at communication. Many people fall into the trap of "I have something to say" and die without knowing how they died!
Although Chinese people are very reasonable, Chinese people's reason is usually relative. Therefore, Chinese people often fall into the embarrassing situation of "if you speak first, you will die, if you don't speak, you will die." To this end, it is necessary to find a balance between speaking first and not speaking, to achieve safe, effective and reasonable communication, in order to achieve the state of "talking without death".
Reader comments
It's very useful. It has changed some perceptions and I have learned a lot of things that I didn't know before. In the process of reading, there were a few periods when I was observing my own words and deeds from God's perspective. According to the description in the book, some things are indeed inappropriate and need to be corrected in the future, and I need to interact with more people for training. At the same time, I recalled thinking about some of the words and deeds of the people around me, and found that some tactful people really know how to handle things. It turns out that there are skills and sets for dealing with interpersonal relationships. It's so complicated, so take your time.
The next thing to do is to apply theory into practice.
Interpersonal communication is a course that we cannot escape throughout our lives and need to continue to learn. The book mainly talks about the three stages of interpersonal relationships, what is a successful interpersonal relationship, the art and communication of interpersonal relationships, and how to achieve effective communication. In this society that often talks about and relies on connections, how to deal with connections is a top priority. As the saying goes, no matter whether connections are good or bad, they are the best if they are used correctly. This book is a very interesting and good textbook on handling interpersonal relationships.
Interpersonal communication is a course that we cannot escape throughout our lives and need to continue to learn. The book mainly talks about the three stages of interpersonal relationships, what is a successful interpersonal relationship, the art and communication of interpersonal relationships, and how to achieve effective communication. In this society that often talks about and relies on connections, how to deal with connections is a top priority. As the saying goes, no matter whether connections are good or bad, they are the best if they are used correctly. This book is a very interesting and good textbook on handling interpersonal relationships.
This book is a very practical book about personal connections. It mainly hopes to tell readers how to learn to make reasonable use of personal connections. The differential order pattern established by the Chinese people since ancient times has given us some inherent concepts and distinctions between closeness and distance in personal relationships. But the author said that in addition to this, we need to learn to communicate well. The saying in Chinese society that "groups precede individuals" in the author's opinion means "the individual is completed in the group", which is also the key to learning interpersonal relationships.
Some people therefore criticize Chinese society for suppressing individuals, infringing on individual freedom, and hindering individual independent will. In fact, if you think about it more deeply, the Chinese people's view is that "the individual is completed in the group." It is easier for the individual to complete himself through the assistance, support and completion of the group. Therefore, interpersonal relationships in groups have become very important to Chinese people. If the relationship is not good and everyone is unwilling to help, then even if you are in a group, you will not get help from everyone. At this time, the group is just a form and does not provide actual help to the individual. If the interpersonal relationship is good and everyone is willing to help, then "working together and uniting as one" can not only exert the collective strength, but also "many people help one person". With everyone helping, the individual benefits will inevitably be greater. Some people are happy to enjoy the success of the group, but they are individualistic and stingy about fulfilling others. When there are benefits, they think of themselves and ask to enjoy them alone; when they have responsibilities, they think of the group and want everyone to share. Such people only have independence but lack autonomy, and suffer the most. Forging a modern Chinese path and truly becoming a modern Chinese should be a good thing welcomed by the whole world. Let us work hard together.
This book tells the importance of interpersonal relationships and human relations in a simple and easy-to-understand way. Made me understand that good communication is the key to building relationships. The content in the book is very practical, such as finding a balance in human relationships and avoiding the embarrassment of "if you speak first, you will die, if you don't speak, you will die". It also mentioned some of the worries and solutions of modern people, which benefited me a lot. Recommended to everyone!
Teacher Zeng Shiqiang's book hits the nail on the head, straightforwardly explaining the differences in interpersonal relationships between China and the West, and then extending it with specific examples to demonstrate. The full text has a complete structure and proceeds step by step. From the cause to the development to the solution, teacher Zeng Shiqiang tells it one by one. "Perfection is greater than right and wrong" and "using ethics and morality to regulate interpersonal relationships" are all Teacher Zeng's views. The examples in the book are based on reality and are easy to understand, making it easy for readers to understand and even find their own shadow in the book.
It is very important to get along with others. If you have the ability to communicate with others, you can live a good life no matter what kind of environment you are in.
It's very useful. It has changed some perceptions and I have learned a lot of things that I didn't know before. In the process of reading, there were a few periods when I was observing my own words and deeds from God's perspective. According to the description in the book, some things are indeed inappropriate and need to be corrected in the future, and I need to interact with more people for training. At the same time, I recalled thinking about some of the words and deeds of the people around me, and found that some tactful people really know how to handle things. It turns out that there are skills and sets for dealing with interpersonal relationships. It's so complicated, so take your time. The next thing to do is to apply theory into practice.
Interpersonal communication is a course that we cannot escape throughout our lives and need to continue to learn. The book mainly talks about the three stages of interpersonal relationships, what is a successful interpersonal relationship, the art and communication of interpersonal relationships, and how to achieve effective communication. In this society that often talks about and relies on connections, how to deal with connections is a top priority. As the saying goes, no matter whether connections are good or bad, they are the best if they are used correctly. This book is a very interesting and good textbook on handling interpersonal relationships.
Interpersonal communication is a course that we cannot escape throughout our lives and need to continue to learn. The book mainly talks about the three stages of interpersonal relationships, what is a successful interpersonal relationship, the art and communication of interpersonal relationships, and how to achieve effective communication. In this society that often talks about and relies on connections, how to deal with connections is a top priority. As the saying goes, no matter whether connections are good or bad, they are the best if they are used correctly. This book is a very interesting and good textbook on handling interpersonal relationships.
This book is a very practical book about personal connections. It mainly hopes to tell readers how to learn to make reasonable use of personal connections. The differential order pattern established by the Chinese people since ancient times has given us some inherent concepts and distinctions between closeness and distance in personal relationships. But the author said that in addition to this, we need to learn to communicate well. The saying in Chinese society that "groups precede individuals" in the author's opinion means "the individual is completed in the group", which is also the key to learning interpersonal relationships.
Some people therefore criticize Chinese society for suppressing individuals, infringing on individual freedom, and hindering individual independent will. In fact, if you think about it more deeply, the Chinese people's view is that "the individual is completed in the group." It is easier for the individual to complete himself through the assistance, support and completion of the group. Therefore, interpersonal relationships in groups have become very important to Chinese people. If the relationship is not good and everyone is unwilling to help, then even if you are in a group, you will not get help from everyone. At this time, the group is just a form and does not provide actual help to the individual. If the interpersonal relationship is good and everyone is willing to help, then "working together and uniting as one" can not only exert the collective strength, but also "many people help one person". With everyone helping, the individual benefits will inevitably be greater. Some people are happy to enjoy the success of the group, but they are individualistic and stingy about fulfilling others. When there are benefits, they think of themselves and ask to enjoy them alone; when they have responsibilities, they think of the group and want everyone to share. Such people only have independence but lack autonomy, and suffer the most. Forging a modern Chinese path and truly becoming a modern Chinese should be a good thing welcomed by the whole world. Let us work hard together.
This book tells the importance of interpersonal relationships and human relations in a simple and easy-to-understand way. Made me understand that good communication is the key to building relationships. The content in the book is very practical, such as finding a balance in human relationships and avoiding the embarrassment of "if you speak first, you will die, if you don't speak, you will die". It also mentioned some of the worries and solutions of modern people, which benefited me a lot. Recommended to everyone!
Teacher Zeng Shiqiang's book hits the nail on the head, straightforwardly explaining the differences in interpersonal relationships between China and the West, and then extending it with specific examples to demonstrate. The full text has a complete structure and proceeds step by step. From the cause to the development to the solution, teacher Zeng Shiqiang tells it one by one. "Perfection is greater than right and wrong" and "using ethics and morality to regulate interpersonal relationships" are all Teacher Zeng's views. The examples in the book are based on reality and are easy to understand, making it easy for readers to understand and even find their own shadow in the book.
It is very important to get along with others. If you have the ability to communicate with others, you can live a good life no matter what kind of environment you are in.
Very transparent and communication guide.