Son and Lover

Love will not be a fairy tale of unconditional devotion, nor will it necessarily exist in a person's life like family love. Love is more about mutual compromise and mutual companionship. Paul did not establish a complete personality when he was growing up. His pathological attachment to his mother was actually more of an escape from facing reality. He was unwilling to let himself become an independent individual because it would require him to compromise the absolute freedom he admired in his heart. So even when faced with platonic love, he still felt restrained and finally chose to return to his mother's arms. This discussion of human nature and ethics fills the entire book. The author writes about the twisted sorrow of a person's spiritual world in a cloud-like, melancholy and hazy tone.

The Oedipus complex is an important symptom of children's abnormal psychological development in Freudian psychology, but it has been given a detailed description in Lawrence's writings. From the mother's attention to records of childhood education to Mrs. Munro's own state of mind, her whole-hearted attention to the children and her special love for the young and old are the real causes of Paul's development. The ultimate reason for the bumpy emotional road is that Paul hates his mother. In other words, this is a complicated emotion, because he can't escape the shadow of his mother in his close relationship. This is a family tragedy, and it also makes the home that was originally a harbor seem so empty in front of every member, making them spiritually helpless.

People's awakening always seems to happen in the loneliest moments. Only through the emptiness of life can true faith be established. The protagonist Paul only loved his mother throughout his life. He was with Milan because Milan was his spiritual partner, but because Milan was too strong, they eventually broke up. The relationship between the two of them is like a fire burning against the book. If the book burns out, the fire will naturally be extinguished. It is really a Platonic spiritual love. According to the rules of modern society, Paul is definitely a scumbag. I watched it intermittently for a long time in my spare time. It was very strenuous, but also very fascinating. After reading it, I had a deep feeling and a feeling that it was not finished.

In fact, the ending seems inevitable. Milan wants platonic love and pure spiritual possession. Clara represents physical desire, an instinctive need of human beings. But as a human being, body and soul are integrated into one, how can they be separated from each other?

It is a very in-depth analysis of the good and bad emotions in a family. After reading the book, I was still thinking about the content of the book!

Through delicate emotional description and characterization, this book shows everyone's inner struggle and growth in emotional entanglements. This is an emotional family novel. The story revolves around the protagonist's family relationships, depicting his entanglements and conflicts between his wife and lover. This novel deeply explores the complex relationship between family, marriage and love, causing readers to think about human nature, responsibility and happiness. Readers can think about the complexity of family relationships and the diversity of human nature while reading, and at the same time be inspired by their own emotions and interpersonal relationships.

On the one hand, Paul has an inseparable Oedipus complex and regards his mother as everything in his life; on the other hand, he longs for the affection and love of Milan and Clara to break free from the shackles of his mother. It is through the contradictions in the human heart that the author continuously advances the development of the plot of the novel, ponders the nature of human nature and the destination of the soul, and nakedly depicts on paper the small and lonely nature of human beings in the face of fate. As far as writing is concerned, the book's fascinating plot descriptions and meticulous psychological analysis all demonstrate Lawrence's sincerity in writing and his understanding of worldly affairs. The most wonderful philosophical part is profound without being obscure, straightforward without being obtrusive. Overall, it's a classic worth reading over and over again.

This book reminded me of a friend of mine who was also struggling to balance family and career. The book's depiction of the complex emotions between son and mother was very real and resonated with me. Moreover, I think Lawrence's portrayal of the character is very delicate, allowing us to see the struggle and transformation of a man in the process of growing up. This is not only a book about family and love, but also a profound exploration of human nature, which is worth reading.

The writing is of a very high standard and with emotion. It has insight into human nature but is not indifferent, and understands people's hearts but is not harsh... Very concise and clear writing, with amazing grasp.

Poor Milan, too many sacrifices have been made

Great book! It truly reproduces the life of miners of that era!

Delicate and vivid psychological description