She is Wild and Flirtatious in the Outer Room: the Cold Prince is Sinking Step by Step

According to Lacan's development theory, during Lu Ying's childhood "mirror stage", the emotional mirroring of others (usually his parents) was missing, which led him to construct a self with "only rules and no emotional coordinates". For Lu Ying, he needs to depend on the Big Other (usually the law, social morals and rules) to survive. "Following the rules" became the only "way of self-affirmation" he could grasp. For most people, the "big other" is an abstract social order and symbol of authority, which should be "supplementary support to the small other (intimate relationship)". In layman's terms, a normal person first becomes himself, for example, I am a cute little boy who is loved by my parents, and then relies on the big other to construct a social self, for example, I am a good child, I am a moral person. In this way, even if one day we do something less moral, we know that we will not be abandoned by the Other because we still have a lot of truth in us. But Lu Ying cannot do that. He has no other reliance, but directly constructs his social self. In Lu Ying's heart, all I need to do is become the most powerful person under this rule system. Therefore, Lu Ying's external self is about snatching and possessing attributes. His Royal Highness, a graceful, self-restrained and polite prince, can climb to high positions and be loved by everyone as long as he is strong enough. But his inner self is like a child who is afraid of being abandoned. He needs Zhao Zhao to comfort him and tell him that she will only love him forever. For Lu Ying, emotions are unreliable, but rules are. Intimate relationships will abandon him at any time, but rules will not. The certainty of the rules became his only weapon against the fear of being abandoned. Ultimately, the core of his personality becomes a carrier of rules for the Other rather than a subject with emotional needs. So what's the problem with this? The biggest problem is that we have no real self and are puppets of the big other. The big other is constructed by imperial power. Because Lu Ying does not identify with his father and is not actually loyal to the big other, plus people have the instinct to live out their true selves. Therefore, His Royal Highness, who is so glamorous on the surface, is so ruthless in private, seizing the wives of ministers, trampling the law, setting up false accusations, amassing money wantonly, and doing things that are contrary to what he has been taught, and he is probably feeling extremely empty inside. On the one hand, he obeys the Big Other, but on the other hand, he betrays the Big Other. He is conflicted, uneasy, and full of fear. Who is Zhao Zhao to Lu Ying? In fact, the early Zhao Zhao was more like a projection of Lu Ying's true self-desire, so he fell asleep as soon as he flirted with her. But in the process of getting along with Zhaozhao, Lu Ying discovered that he would be jealous, jealous, and sincerely doting on this object of desire. This was completely another part of himself (real self) besides the part of himself he was familiar with (social self, false self). Every time Lu Ying chooses between the throne and Zhao Zhao, it is the Big Other confronting his true desires, and his false self confronting his true desires. So Zhaozhao failed in the early stage, and Lu Ying had to give up on her every time, such as choosing the face of the Crown Princess, sending her to Jiangnan, and choosing Huo Mingyan as queen. At the same time, Zhao Zhao, as the embodiment of emotion and desire, could fool Lu Ying at any time, and he would take the bait every day. She would be asked out by others whenever he was away from her, making him feel abandoned at any time. It was too unreliable. But in the process of getting involved with Zhao Zhao, Lu Ying's true self gradually became clearer and he gradually became humane. Zhaozhao kept telling him what he wanted, and would be happy or sad because of the feedback he gave him. These interactive processes promoted the emergence of his true self, instead of being locked in a dark corner of his heart to fend for himself. Lu Ying (the desire part of his true self) became dissatisfied with his desires and begged Zhao Zhao for attention every minute. Chen Yunxi and Huo Mingyan are different. They are the needs of Lu Ying who is shaped by the big other, so what kind of love do they need? Lu Ying said, I don't even have these things to love myself. In the timeline of Lu Ying's seizure of the throne, he once again faces the collision between his social self and his true self. This time without Zhao Zhao, Lu Ying realized that it wouldn't work. Because his true self has grown up in his relationship with Zhao Zhao and is no longer empty. His true self cannot stand the situation where his desires are not satisfied. Later, he was willing to challenge the rules and conquer the world for Zhaozhao. In this way, becoming an emperor became a more meaningful thing, not just a desire given by the big other. In the past, proclaiming emperor was just a necessity for survival and was the only way out under the imperial power system. Several time points after seizing the throne ① Unable to refuse Uncle Huo's request After all, Lu Ying still didn't dare to face her true self at first. Being an emperor is not easy, and he cannot disappoint those who follow him and need him to be responsible and be a good emperor. How can you proclaim obscenity every day? How could you just marry an unsuitable woman to be your queen? Maybe their disappointment is too terrible. Their disappointment is the disappointment of the big other, and he cannot be abandoned. Even if the Huo family didn't threaten him to marry Huo Mingyan, if someone said that if you don't marry Huo Mingyan, make Shen Yingling the queen, is this a wise emperor's choice? Then you have let us down so much. It was difficult for Lu Ying to face this situation. After all, he often feels abandoned and unloved, and the support of others is conditional. The abandonment of followers is terrible. Under what circumstances did he agree to Uncle Huo's request? He said: "Since you will not become the next Lu Yu, how can Yan'er become the next Queen Huo? Jingwei, uncle has confidence in you. " Lu Ying agreed to this request not because he was threatened by the Huo family and the Guanwai family, but because he was unable to face the disappointment, abandonment and idealization of his followers. Some followers are weak and need protection, some followers have low moral standards and cannot stand on the stage, and some followers are arrogant and repay favors, but these relationships are the relationships that he depends on for survival, and it is difficult for him to cut them off cruelly, and a bad relationship is better than nothing. If everyone thinks this is good, then he is also good. A stable world, a stable heart, and being the puppet of others and followers is the comfort zone. When people's self-strength is not strong enough, making such a choice is almost inevitable. Only a small number of people will feel the true need or call of mission in their hearts and live a life that truly belongs to them. Like the moon and sixpence, Zhao Zhao is the moon. ② Discuss with Zhaozhao what to do next Lu Ying once said to Zhao Zhao in his early years, you have the final say when the relationship between you and me begins, and when it ends, it is up to you. This time Lu Ying once again chose the Other between the Other and Zhao Zhao, just like sending her to Jiangnan. At this time, Lu Ying didn't realize that he didn't have the final say when it ended, and he didn't express his heartfelt gratitude to Zhao Zhao for taking the initiative to start their relationship. In fact, without Zhao Zhao, he would have been living a boring life on the track, with strong power but no true self. Without Zhaozhao, the choices he made were all within the comfort zone of his false self. He would marry a wife he didn't love, give birth to a child he didn't love, and be like a walking zombie. No amount of power could fill the emptiness in his heart. Zhao Zhao came to bed, kept writing letters to seduce him in Ganzhou, tried to lure him there in Jiangnan, or dragged him to be a concubine after he was deposed. Zhao Zhao was "making him" or "pushing him" to make some challenging decisions. He also loved him and wanted to tie himself to Lu Ying. So he silently got used to Zhaozhao making decisions about their relationship. He was so used to it that he thought these decisions were made by himself. If this choice was made by Zhao Zhao, Lu Ying would not have to face his own heart and could escape the difficult decision. That's why Lu Ying's question tortured both us readers and Zhao Zhao: "Huo Mingyan will become the new queen, what should I do to you?" The original intention is: I can't face the situation alone when others accuse me of not being a wise emperor. Can you tell me what to do? In fact, Lu Ying really meant to discuss this with her, "You are the person closest to me. You are my de facto and emotional wife. You are the one who gives me strength. What do you think we should do? I need you to tell me, what should I do? Just like you always do." Lu Ying felt that Zhao Zhao would definitely follow him, and since he was the emperor, who would he follow if not him? At the same time, he wanted to further confirm Zhaozhao's feelings for him. If Zhaozhao feels sad because of me, then he really loves me. Or even if Zhao Zhao didn't say "I am willing to follow brother Lu Ying without any name or status", as long as he showed sadness, Lu Ying would admit it. After he got the answer he wanted, he could not mind her betrayal and give her the concubine position as agreed before. This was an easy and willing thing for him. But at this time, Zhao Zhao was finally brave enough to admit and face her feelings for Lu Ying. When she was treated like this, her sadness was infinitely magnified. She felt completely abandoned. She was also a girl who needed to be loved by him. Zhaozhao felt completely abandoned and extremely sad. She could only digest her huge sadness and embarrassment by saying goodbye to him. This sadness is the beginning for Lu Ying and the end for Zhao Zhao. So Lu Ying got the answer he wanted, but Zhao Zhao no longer wanted to take the exam. ③Summary After Lu Ying experienced the days full of sunshine and vitality with Zhao Zhao, he could no longer stand the time alone. Only with Zhao Zhao could he feel his own vitality and warmth. Some relationships are toxic, and he cannot cut them off, face and make difficult choices. But it is Zhao Zhao who insists on his demands and shows a very high sense of deservingness, which makes him have to stand up and make more. Zhao Zhao has always wanted to take the back seat, and Lu Ying must not be restrained by the Huo family + find a way to establish military merit and regain military power, so he must choose to conquer personally. This action actually enhanced his strength. If it weren't for Zhaozhao, when would he be able to take back military power outside the customs? In short, Zhao Zhao always makes some decisions for Lu Ying that are deviant in Lu Ying's subconscious, giving him the opportunity to do what he really wants to do in his heart, live his true self, and feel the joy of life. These are what Lu Ying needs and desires. This is also the reason why Lu Yingai and Zhao Zhaoai come back to life, far more than lust itself. Therefore, if Lu Ying's ideal life is to live out his true self, his ideal life is to be with Zhao Zhao and be with Zhao Zhao.

The author often breaks updates, sometimes only updating 2 chapters a month. Does the QReading platform have any relevant regulations that restrict authors from breaking updates? When dealing with such authors, the platform either removes the book from the shelves or agrees to update one chapter every day, otherwise readers will run away.

Let me write an ending that I made up for everyone, so don't suffer anymore The spy who hurt Lu Ying was Cui Ji's person. When Cui Ji was on a mission to Jiang State, there was a man who knew the plan to assassinate him. He was grateful that Cui Ji had saved his life during his mission, admired Cui Ji's talent and integrity, and couldn't bear his death in vain. He secretly designed Cui Ji to fake his death and abandoned Cui Ji at the border of the Western Regions. The body sent back to Beijing was forged. Cui Ji woke up in a mass grave on the border of the Western Region. He knew that Lu Ying must want him dead, whether it was for selfish reasons or for imperial power. Moreover, he and Shen Zhaozhao both knew that with the new emperor Lu Ying coming to the throne, they would need to rely on the power of the Huo family to attack Beirong and expand their territory. Even if Lu Ying intends to give Shen Zhaozhao the throne, as long as the Huo family is still useful, Huo Mingyan will secure the throne. He will only have the opportunity to give Shen Zhaozhao the throne if his imperial power is highly concentrated and Huo Mingyan herself cannot secure the throne. Even if Shen Zhaozhao gives his heart to Lu Ying and is willing to be with him sincerely, he will either have to be a noble concubine and be controlled by the harem, secretly coached by the Huo family, and always bow to Huo Mingyan. Or just like now, without status, she is the one whose self-esteem and reputation are humiliated every time she is found with Lu Ying. If Huo Mingyan is right and the Huo family has always been loyal and loyal, Shen Zhaozhao will wither in the harem all his life because of his love with Lu Ying. What's more, as time went by, Huo Mingyan gave birth to a prince, and Lu Ying saw that the situation of Huo Mingyan's mother and son became more and more like that of his mother and himself, and the status of Shen Zhaozhao's mother and son became more and more like that of Concubine Zhang. How could he bear it? At this time, Shen Zhaozhao surrendered to Lu Ying and showed her sincerity. She would have to live by pleasing Lu Ying for the rest of her life. Therefore, in order to avenge Lu Ying and set Shen Zhaozhao free, Cui Ji decided to take control of the military himself. He operated under a pseudonym on the frontier of the Western Region and developed his own power. At the same time, Cui Ji discovered the truth behind the Huo family's involvement in plotting the Shen family's downfall: The Huo family was stationed on the northern border, and because of the Emperor's fear, military pay was often insufficient. In order to feed the border troops, the Huo family secretly smuggled with the Western Regions in exchange for military supplies. When eldest brother Shen Zhaozhao was stationed in Beirong, he accidentally discovered that the Huo family was collaborating with the Western Regions. He pretended not to know and told Duke Shen after returning to Beijing safely. But the Huo family became suspicious and looked for opportunities to silence him (collaboration with the enemy was a serious matter, and once exposed by the Shen family, the Huo family would be destroyed sooner or later). At this time, Duke Shen was summoned by the Supreme Emperor and told to deal with the matter of Shen Zhaozhao being the princess of the Western Regions. Duke Shen knew that he had military power and was married to the prince, so he had already been jealous of the emperor. The emperor now relied on the Huo family to defend the northern border. Even if he reported that the Huo family had collaborated with the enemy in the Western Regions, the emperor would still protect the Huo family but use evidence to blackmail the Huo family, cut off the vassal Shen family, and consolidate military power; and the Shen family It was discovered that Lu Ying's maternal ancestral family was collaborating with the Western Regions, and there would be a battle with Lu Ying's maternal ancestral family sooner or later; therefore, even if she survived, if the Huo family interfered when the new emperor Lu Ying came to the throne, his beloved daughter Shen Zhaozhao would die (Lu Ying wanted to protect the Huo family, or Shen Zhaozhao was assassinated in the harem in minutes if the Shen family lost the fight). That night, for the survival of the Shen family and Shen Zhaozhao, brother Shen Zhaozhao took the tiger charm out of the capital at night... Fortunately, that night, a recruit who followed Brother Shen Zhaozhao and was rescued by Brother Shen Zhaozhao in Beirong survived by chance (brother Shen Zhaozhao told him the secret of the destruction of the Shen family and asked him to escape). The recruit sold grilled naan on the border of the Western Regions and took Cui Ji in when he woke up from the grave. In the past few years, the Huo family has followed Lu Ying to expand its territory, and its status has risen. It is not enough to have foreign armies. The Huo family has reached into the south of the Yangtze River to grasp more wealth (like Luo Xibai). The Huo family began to open a bank in Jiangnan to manage military pay. Lu Ying began to fear the power of the Huo family. He led his own troops to conquer the country and placed his favorites in the border army, all in order to strengthen the imperial power's control over the border military power. Yu Feng (the recovered former member of Shen Guogong) brought back a mute nun to see Shen Zhaozhao. The mute nanny was Cheng Hui's dowry maid. On the night when the eldest brother Shen Zhaozhao brought the tiger charm, Cheng Hui asked the mute nanny to run back to her parents' home with evidence of the Huo family's collaboration with the enemy. The Cheng family did not dare to participate and wanted to kill the mute nanny. The mute nanny poisoned herself and survived. The mute grandma told Shen Zhaozhao the truth. Shen Zhaozhao wanted to cater to Lu Ying's imperial plan and take revenge on the Huo family. Shen Zhaozhao shorted the Huo family's bank and took away the Huo family's military pay. The Huo family's treasury was depleted. Without military pay, their prestige in the army was damaged. Shen Zhaozhao went to negotiate with Lu Ying: he would hand over evidence of the Huo family's collaboration with the enemy and promised to help Lu Ying take back the border military power. Hand over the military pay of the short-selling Huo family to Lu Ying to strengthen Lu Ying's control over the border troops. Her financial resources help Lu Ying, and Lu Ying protects her power. Lu Ying surrendered to Shen Zhaozhao, and he gradually learned that love means respect and honesty. Lu Ying confessed that after attacking Beirong, he was eager to attack the Western Regions. Not only because Beirong was beaten, the Western Regions and the Central Plains would start a war sooner or later, but also because Shen Zhaozhao was the princess of the Western Regions, and Shen Zhaozhao would leave him one day. At that time, he thought that if the Huo family was not wrong, he could not give Shen Zhaozhao the queen's position, so he could only turn the shore of the land into a royal land, allowing Shen Zhaozhao to walk freely and safely on the land he was guarding for the rest of his life. The two cooperated to weaken and attack the Western Region, and their relationship warmed up. However, Shen Zhaozhao did not dare to love Lu Ying wholeheartedly. For revenge, she became Lu Ying's knife to cut down the vassal and gather the imperial power. She was also afraid that Lu Ying would be jealous of her one day. Lu Ying knew her concerns, and he used practical actions to gradually increase Shen Zhaozhao's trust in him and see his sincerity. The Huo family realized that Lu Ying was working with Shen Guogong's old men to weaken their own power. Shen Zhaozhao deliberately revealed that Shen Guogong's old men knew the truth, forcing the Huo family to usurp the throne. Huo Mingyan poisoned Lu Ying, falling into Shen Zhaozhao's trap, and Huo Mingyan was deposed. In recent years, under the management of Lu Ying and Shen Zhaozhao, most of the border troops have sincerely surrendered to Lu Ying, and Xue Lian took over the military power of the Huo family. Lu Ying finally concentrated imperial power. The Western Region is weak but cannot be conquered for a long time (a lot of weapons and equipment from the Western Region were smuggled with the Huo family back then), and the Central Plains has long been exhausted (the people are suffering again). The war has ceased, and negotiations between the two countries are imminent. At this time, it was discovered that Cui Ji was causing trouble when Lu Ying was injured, and the three met at the Shura Field. Cui Ji said that he will always be Shen Zhaozhao's knife, and everything he does is sharpening the knife for Shen Zhaozhao. All his power is used to protect Shen Zhaozhao and let Shen Zhaozhao live his life according to his own wishes. The three Shura Changwan reached a consensus on the issue of the Western Region: Cui Ji has been very successful in his business in the Western Regions in the past few years. He has friendship with the leaders of the surrender and peace faction of the Western Regions royal family. Cui Ji negotiated with the peace-seeking royal family: he helped the peace-seeking faction take charge of the Western Regions, and the Western Regions were incorporated into the Central Plains territory and became autonomous under the jurisdiction of the Western Regions Admiral of the Central Plains; he clarified the identity of Shen Zhaozhao, the princess of the Western Regions, and made Shen Zhaozhao the Western Regions Admiral. Cui Ji and Shen Zhaozhao had a heart-to-heart talk (Lu Ying overheard). Cui Ji said: Shen Zhaozhao saved him, and he also wanted to save Shen Zhaozhao to repay his kindness. Since the rule is whoever is stronger can get Shen Zhaozhao, he becomes the strongest sword and allows Shen Zhaozhao to become the strongest person and be able to freely control his own destiny. (Lu Ying was jealous: Brother, please point me...) He said: In fact, all this is not because of Shen Zhaozhao, but also for himself. Shen Zhaozhao does not need to feel that he is indebted to him. Now that they have saved each other, they are even, and they do not owe each other. He also said: The deep reason why Shen Zhaozhao's biological mother originally wanted Shen Zhaozhao to ascend the throne should be that the person with the highest rights is the freest. Shen Guogong's family also hopes that Shen Zhaozhao can live a safe and free life. They hope that Shen Zhaozhao will no longer be bound by hatred and other fetters and live his life according to his own wishes. (Lu Ying: Dude, he ordered me again... Then Lu Ying reflected...) Shen Zhaozhao was moved. Lu Ying finally admitted that when it comes to loving Shen Zhaozhao, Cui Ji wins a lot, while Lu Ying is humble... The world has been settled, and Shen Zhaozhao is going to appease the people of the Western Regions and set up a nursery to raise orphans on the frontier, so as to realize the ambition and pride of the Shen family and their children. Lu Ying secretly begged Shen Zhaozhao to accept the post before leaving. Then he said that Shen Zhaozhao could walk freely and safely between heaven and earth, and he could come back at any time when he wanted to go back to the palace to see him and his children. Shen Zhaozhao was teased and struggled for many years. Shen Zhaozhao finally had the confidence to respond to his sincerity towards Lu Ying and pursue his ideals without fear of the consequences. Ending: After Shen Zhaozhao was granted the title, he would often travel incognito as Mrs. Shen and pursue his ambitions in the Western Regions. Shen Zhaozhao became the legendary Mrs. Shen in history because of his political achievements. Cui Ji stayed in the Western Regions for a long time, displayed his talents, and became a famous minister in history books. Lu Ying became a famous Mingjun in history books and ushered in a prosperous age. The crown prince Zhuo Yufeng was raised under Lu Ying's knees and lived in a side hall with Lu Ying. He only moved to his own palace when his mother returned to the palace... 1V1 1v2 casual

If you don't want to write, don't write. MD will give you a habit

If you want to update, you will update, if you don't want to update, you won't. The attitude is bad and the plot is bloody.

In the past, the supporting characters were messy and sloppy, but now they are understated and seriously overdone. The sweet pets that readers long for are not at all. What the hell is this?

You can read it after it's finished. This is my lesson. If I don't tell you, more readers will get stuck. I wish someone in the comment section had told me not to click in when I read this book two months ago. The positive reviews I received at the time were completely different after reading it. There is no eldest heroine, and the eldest heroine's revenge is even more simple and crude. If you come here for this, please avoid it. There is also no cold and affectionate male protagonist. The male protagonist's affection is only reflected in what he thinks in his heart and what he talks about. He rarely does anything good for the female protagonist. Most of them condone others to hurt her or hurt her himself, which is very hypocritical. This is a bloody story about female abuse. If you can accept that the heroine is constantly being insulted and you feel comfortable, then you can read it. The plot is very good, the supporting characters are written in great detail, and the final part is very sloppy. After reading it, you will not understand the meaning of writing such details... The most terrifying thing is that the author will not update for a week, or update a thousand or two thousand words perfunctorily, and the completion is far away. In the ending, it is very likely that the male protagonist will be forgiven for everything he has done. As for why the female protagonist suffered so much, it is probably because of love... I wrote this post to accumulate virtue and do good deeds. After reading the comment sections of the author's previous articles, I found that they all have these problems. It seems that he is a repeat offender. I regret not reading these reviews on other books before, I was wrong.

It doesn't matter if there is no charge. Since the charging platform and the author have to be responsible for the readers?

I can't help but come back to criticize you even if you abandon the article. You are such a bad author. I am unlucky to see your serialized article. Not to mention that the characters are poorly written, and there are too many unfinished holes to fill in. How many chapters have been updated since the Chinese New Year? It has disappeared inexplicably without mentioning it. It looks ugly. You can't have both. You want to transfer money from members and fans but don't want to update. It is recommended to remove it from the shelves directly

I have never seen such a perfunctory ending. Basically, it was tortured from beginning to end. It was tortured to the point of heartache. I chased it for a year and couldn't pick up a candy at the end. The emperor and empress got married and recognized their biological son. This long story was over in one go. I was really disappointed after watching it.